2011ProblemsWithMyHouse | 2011Teenagemom | Part 52

[Kitina13]

It's so frustrating she wont seek help. I think she just doesnt want to be a person on antidepressants because of the stigma. But no one has to know. SSRI's are very low risk, non habit forming, and do not give you a drugged up or numb feeling. I dont understand at all...its hard to watch.

[emlyx]

As someone stated above, she is just in denial. But a little part of me also thinks that she's being manipulative at some degree.
~Ok, you won't get me another Au Pair after KC... 4 stinky guinea pigs...
Ok KC left and yet there's nobody to "help" me? A dog...
My mom&dad&David& in-laws won't give a fuck about my "situation"? Another dog... David still is not giving a fuckkkk? Now the picking it's extreme and you won't be able to NOT see them...
It's like a cry for help but she doesn't want to be helped. I mean, she wants the company that her husband doesn't provide, the extra set of hands, the ability to behave as a teenager all day long and to procrastinate... multiple trips to Target, unlimited amounts of Rae Dunn and money to spend. But no help from a Dr, even though everybody says that's pretty inexpensive through the Military. She's just crying for attention and trying to get things her way.

[Resting_Bitch_Face]

It's so frustrating she wont seek help. I think she just doesnt want to be a person on antidepressants because of the stigma. But no one has to know. SSRI's are very low risk, non habit forming, and do not give you a drugged up or numb feeling. I dont understand at all...its hard to watch.

No she doesn’t wanna get help because when she does she’ll be able to function & she won’t have any excuse to lazy it up. She has everyone convinced she has “anxiety” but doesn’t wanna get help because “she doesn’t wanna look like she’s on drugs”....umm wake up sweetie you’re already there. She looks like the prostitute crack heads I pass by every morning here in NYC.

What she needs to do is shutthefuckup about her “mental health” if she’s not even gonna bother to get help for it. Not only is she sending her young viewers the wrong message but it’s just annoying af already.

There’s nothing I find more annoying than seeing somebody whine about all the problems they’re having and not doing a goddamn thing about it.

[jellybean]

Ok Banessa, but you need a doctor, not another au pair. [IMG]//uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/201910 ... 151fa1.jpg[/IMG]

Hm. It's really tough when anxiety gets to that point where you can't stand it and are desperate for any distraction. There are some people who will overwork themselves or constantly cling to others so that they don't have time to dwell on their thoughts or be alone with their mental illness. It seems like Vanessa attempts to achieve that with pets? Which I guess makes sense in theory, they're stress reducers and love you unconditionally. They aren't going to solve anything though. The problem needs to be addressed by a professional.


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[brokenrecord]

As someone stated above, she is just in denial. But a little part of me also thinks that she's being manipulative at some degree.
~Ok, you won't get me another Au Pair after KC... 4 stinky guinea pigs...
Ok KC left and yet there's nobody to "help" me? A dog...
My mom&dad&David& in-laws won't give a fuck about my "situation"? Another dog... David still is not giving a fuckkkk? Now the picking it's extreme and you won't be able to NOT see them...
It's like a cry for help but she doesn't want to be helped. I mean, she wants the company that her husband doesn't provide, the extra set of hands, the ability to behave as a teenager all day long and to procrastinate... multiple trips to Target, unlimited amounts of Rae Dunn and money to spend. But no help from a Dr, even though everybody says that's pretty inexpensive through the Military. She's just crying for attention and trying to get things her way.

"She's just crying for attention and trying to get her things her way"--Exactly!

She should of taken advantage of KC's help and really worked on herself with help from a professional. Instead, she lived a a carefree life without responsibilities. She was literally going out every weekend. What mom does that? Especially one with a 1 year old. Funny how everything was A-OK when she didn't have to be a mom 24/7. Now that she has those responsibilities (& away from her family/friends) the girl got a reality check & is now screaming anxiety. She has to put in the work with a professional if she wants to get better. But instead, she wants other people to bail her out so she can go back to living that teenage lifestyle (since that is was cures her anxiety). Sorry, not here for her pity party.

[Resting_Bitch_Face]

As someone stated above, she is just in denial. But a little part of me also thinks that she's being manipulative at some degree.
~Ok, you won't get me another Au Pair after KC... 4 stinky guinea pigs...
Ok KC left and yet there's nobody to "help" me? A dog...
My mom&dad&David& in-laws won't give a fuck about my "situation"? Another dog... David still is not giving a fuckkkk? Now the picking it's extreme and you won't be able to NOT see them...
It's like a cry for help but she doesn't want to be helped. I mean, she wants the company that her husband doesn't provide, the extra set of hands, the ability to behave as a teenager all day long and to procrastinate... multiple trips to Target, unlimited amounts of Rae Dunn and money to spend. But no help from a Dr, even though everybody says that's pretty inexpensive through the Military. She's just crying for attention and trying to get things her way.

"She's just crying for attention and trying to get her things her way"--Exactly!

She should of taken advantage of KC's help and really worked on herself with help from a professional. Instead, she lived a a carefree life without responsibilities. She was literally going out every weekend. What mom does that? Especially one with a 1 year old. Funny how everything was A-OK when she didn't have to be a mom 24/7. Now that she has those responsibilities (& away from her family/friends) the girl got a reality check & is now screaming anxiety. She has to put in the work with a professional if she wants to get better. But instead, she wants other people to bail her out so she can go back to living that teenage lifestyle (since that is was cures her anxiety). Sorry, not here for her pity party.

[Chambermaid69]

The last paragraph makes no sense. What in her life is causing her so much anxiety? Is it money? Responsibilities? Children? Marriage? Lack of routine? Or is it lack of an au pair or someone to do all of her dirty work for her? She’s a fucking idiot and I’m tired of her whining. If it’s an au pair that you want just come out and ask for it. If your anxiety was that bad you’d seek help or find ways to lessen it not add to it.

[Dumbledore]

She acts like she needs a constant companion. David is at work so he’s busy and when he’s home he does what he wants. He doesn’t follow her to the store or go with her to the vet or to run errands, it’s easier for him to stay home and “watch the kids” aka play video games while they watch tv. She wants someone to accompany her everywhere the same way Nona and kc used to. That is not realistic. I knew all that handholding would end up damaging her ability to adult like a normal person.

It’s not anyone’s responsibility to keep you distracted from hurting yourself. If you can’t function as an adult, as a mother, and as a pet owner to FIVE pets then do something about it. Too many living beings rely on you now.

[honeybear]

If she truly felt she suffered, shed get help.

I know depression is different, but I dealt with it severely. It got to the point where I was going to commit suicide. I thought about it daily. It was DARK. I didn't want to be on drugs because I heard all of the negatives about them, but I knew I needed them.

I got medicated and they made me gain a ton of weight and made me lack all emotions entirely - even happiness. But that it also meant not feeling depressed. And I was so mentally sick, that dealing with these negative side effects was STILL better than dealing with my mental illness.

Her reason for not wanting drugs is bullshit. If they'll help you, do it. Go for counselling, do whatever.

But I have zero sympathy for people that constantly cry about their mental problems but refuse to do a damn thing about it.

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[MyNameIsHope34]

Long time lurker here.
I feel sorry for Vanessa.Her life seems devoid of purporse,she has no hobbies,she doesn't read,she doesn't do anything around the house,she doesn't want to work and she sounds really depressed.She's capable of taking care of herself and her children,she is just unmotivated and lazy.There is so much to explore and experience,so many ways to connect and so much to share...Why are some people so happy about being lazy and doing nothing?Vanessa needs to grow up.Stuff won't fill the hole in her life.She needs to sort out her priorities.One small step can change her life.

<Goals are what take us forward in life,they are the oxygen to our dreams.>

[sssabrina]

Wtf did she mean with that last paragraph? That shit's dark. I hope she gets some professional help.

She's never been well spoken but I can usually still decipher what she's trying to say. She even threw me off by comparing it to drug withdrawals though. I guess she means that it's torture? But what is she being "persuaded" (lol) by? Girl idk.

[sadie]

Woah

[Dumbledore]

That’s what she would look like if she got a buzz cut.
All that new hair growth from her plucking her hair out.

She linked a video talking about imposter syndrome
Believe me, Vanessa, only people who are not paying attention think you’re a great mom and that you have it all together. Everyone else can clearly see you struggling. If social media is affecting you, get off it. You don’t need the money anymore now that David and his parents support you. But you won’t leave because you love the attention. Always have and always will.

[Amelia322]

Why isn’t David taking care of her? How can he not see she’s in a dark place?


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[GGF1987]

Honestly she'd look better with a buzz cut than the disgusting mess she has now. Even if she doesn't want to get on medicine, she could at least get into therapy. I know many people have had great success in learning new ways to deal with anxiety that didn't include picking their skin. She's just full of excused for everything and the only ones who are going to suffer for it are her kids....not that she cares.

[jellybean]

Why isn’t David taking care of her? How can he not see she’s in a dark place?


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She said she pushes people away when they try to talk about it. I'm assuming that was probably referring to him.


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[ssr0312]

Why isn’t David taking care of her? How can he not see she’s in a dark place?


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Maybe he doesn't even know... what if she's putting up this on social media not telling anyone around her???

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[emlyx]

Why isn’t David taking care of her? How can he not see she’s in a dark place?


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Maybe he doesn't even know... what if she's putting up this on social media not telling anyone around her???

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Is he blind? She's a mess

[ssr0312]

Why isn’t David taking care of her? How can he not see she’s in a dark place?


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Maybe he doesn't even know... what if she's putting up this on social media not telling anyone around her???

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Is he blind? She's a mess

He is probably used to seeing her like that though idk is not like is something new.

I can't feel bad for her because she has all the help available too her and chooses not to get help. She can see FREE counselors and drs on base. It can all be anonymous.... yet she chooses to complain on social media like that's going to help her.

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[thenightowl]

Is that beeping in her instastories her smoke alarm? That would drive me crazy and it's just lazy that they won't change the batteries/fix it.