I think you meant well by your post but if you haven't experienced having a strained relationship with your mother then you don't really know what it's like. Unless you have experience with another family member but you mentioned your mom so that's just what I am going off of. You get tired of the constant disappointment and eventually give up on the relationship. We don't know what happened with kyra and her mom but we do know that kyra lived with her dad, talked about having a tough childhood, and mentioned she had no baby pictures at all. Maybe kyra has decided to let her mom reach out to her for once.greeneyes21 wrote:I completely agree with what youre saying lol my point in my post was, just for my own piece of mind i would still try to make things right with my mother so that in the end i knew i tried. (not saying kyra should or anything like that lol) but yes i agree that the child shouldnt have to make things work with their own parent. The parent should be doing that. And yes maybe they do have a good relationship, and kyra may want it to be more of a private thingrachel_rob wrote:I don't understand why everyone keeps making a huge deal about her mom, and sticking up for her. It really bothers me when people stick up for ADULTS and put all the responsibility and burden on the CHILDREN. If anyone should be responsible to make an effort, it is the parent. It's not, and never should be, the child's responsibility to make things work with a parent. Her mother made certain choices in life that seem to have put a strain on their relationship, and not is not Kyra's fault in anyway. As some of you have said, it is not a belief that her mom was happy about her choice to get pregnant again, so why would she want that around her daughter? Yes, some people come around, but some parents have a warped view of what life should be.
Instead of starting a family, my mom thought that my time should be spent "Going clubbing and drinking and going to parties, and being a 'normal' 21 year old".
Which clearly is not something you encourage your child to do. I love my mom, but the thought of visiting her, gives me anxiety. She has 0 filters, and doesn't think before she talks, and has very little respect for my spouse, and has a very short fuse. My daughter is almost 1 and has never met her. And although I am in no hurry to visit her, and barely talk to her-- if I were a vlogger- I would NOT go saying how I feel to the world about my mom. And I wouldn't expect Kyra to do that either. And honestly, the fact that she hasn't done that is great! If she had, that would show a very high level of immaturity, and clearly she knows how to keep private things private.
My point is, it is not up to the child to make things right with their parents. So I don't understand why people are expecting for her to make all the effort? It seems like if there was a simple explanation, she would have mentioned something like, "My mom is really busy with work but is coming out this summer." But she has ignored it completely which shows that it's not something she wants to bring up.
Expecting a child to be the one to mend things with their parent, is like implying that the CHILD did anything wrong. As if the child is the one at fault for all of the parents mistakes. And that's not true.
You guys make your points and put out your complaints, but this one I COMPLETELY disagree with.
But then again, we know NOTHING. She could have a great relationship with her mom, and maybe her mom is already planning on coming out!:)
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Something else to consider is lots of men have this type of estranged relationship with their kids as well. They only call for birthdays and hardly visit. It's pretty uncommon but maybe kyra and her mom have this relationship as well.
