HelloSweetie1 wrote:
I respect your professional opinion, but you are assuming that B&M will recognize a problem should it become obvious there is one. These are the same parents that failed to recognize their son was potentially having seizures. They were concerned about it AFTER the viewers who only see that 10 minutes a day pushed for them to address it.
Secondly, she manipulated that test didn't she? As a medical professional, would you advocate and encourage a parent to do so because they felt it was better? This to me, shows a complete lack of respect for not only those performing the test, but Oliver's health as well.
I assume you are a Speech Pathologist? You never said your credentials, but implied this is so. Would you continue to show a child various round objects and refer to them all as a ball (especially if that child already knows that word well)?
Like I said earlier, yes we only see 10 minutes, but we see enough to realize the poor kid spends half his day in front of the television. You can say being a SAH parent has nothing to do with it, but being an engaged, observant and present parent does.
He would benefit socially from Daycare, but he shouldn't have to go the to improve his verbal skills. There should be more effort at home.
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Didn't imply I was a Speech Pathologist, but I have a BS.ED in K-12 elementary & special education, with minors in reading & early childhood + a MSEd in special education, specializing in learning disabilities. I work with speech pathologists daily, and I'm currently working mostly working in SPED with Kindergarten kids.
B&M are not perfect - they do many, (many) questionable things, and I don't understand why. (your ball example is perfect, him being allowed to hit things is another). BUT, again, we don't get the whole picture. Without the whole picture, we really do not know what he's really like. We don't always see M reading a full book to him, and perhaps asking him questions along the way, or asking him to repeat words. Just because he doesn't say them on the vlog, doesn't mean they're not there. We don't see him every moment of the day. I don't like assuming, just because we see part of their day.
If he's not showing significant delay (which, kids should be able to speak approx: 100ish words at age 2, 300 words by 2.5 or so, including 2-word sentences and different syllables), then there wouldn't be cause for concern. However again, if he is, he could be a slower learner too, so he may not be BOOM second birthday, and speaking 100 words exactly. That's up to his doctor at the well visits to determine, based on feedback from B&M. Of course, if they aren't telling the truth, then that will 100% be on them in the future. I can't imagine ANY parent would be like that (but again, who knows with them, as you mentioned above).
In my experience, children that come into kindergarten with speech therapists already in place, were far, far behind their development range (I'm talking less than 50 words at age 3). I'm sure if someone had more time on their hands, they could go through all the vlogs and count just what you hear in it alone. (He also could be saying far less than 50, but I'm also not at their house 24/7, so it would be impossible to determine that, and we're just going on assumptions)
Not informing him that every round thing is not a ball, is indeed horrible of them, because it just confuses him, and really, it's bad parenting. His ability to recognize it is actually a sign of comprehension skills however. He knows that seeing a round thing is a ball, and can say it, but that's also because that's what he was told. It's like telling him an orange is "yellow", and thus he think all things that are orange, are called "yellow". They should be working on what characteristics make up a ball and 100% correcting him.
And you're right - he does watch too much t.v, if given by what they say, they watch full length movies. Children his age should only be watching educational programming, and limited to under two hours a day.
I think we're going to see him follow the steps of Emilia, and begin talking like crazy out of no where. That's how it happens. If not, perhaps as if most assume, they will read all of this, and get him assessed(we would hope, right?)
I think we can both agree, however, that another baby is going to be a lot for them, and it'll be interesting to see if they pay even less attention to him, and ignore his social needs, something I see as far more pressing currently. Behavior is much more difficult to correct, in my opinion. Most children who experience slight speech delays are able to catch up fairly quickly (outside of a diagnose of a specific disability).
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