MamatoanAngel wrote:I think a lot of people started off liking them. I found Missy and her channel very easy to relate to. I'm 23 and had recently had a full term loss,her channel was about her loss's, and she seemed so genuine back then. I shared many of her videos with friends/family and the MANY baby loss groups I'm in. I gave her many chances to include herself in the community, and she chose not to. I started noticing it became less and less about loss, and more about her son who survived.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm happy for her I really am. I had a full term loss, and I'm now nearly 20 weeks pregnant,and obviously I as well would like to bring baby home this time. But she completely gave up the roots in which grounded her channel, and that was loss. She roped us in with sympathy, and once her audience picked up just stopped.It was soon after her Mothers day video that she stopped.I shared the shit out of that video, and got it out there,because it was beautiful and unique.
I called her out on it,and she claims she's very much active in the community,answers emails etc. I have yet to see it. She has a pretty big audience, it would have been prime time to actually TALK about loss. Celebrate the days with the rest of us.All of October is Pregnancy and Infant loss awareness month,the 15th is the Remembrance day, and August 19th,which happens to be son's birth and death date, is DAY OF HOPE dedicated to all mothers around the world.
She is NOT active in any of these aspects, at all, and it's disgusting. She is not who she claims to be,her channel is not what she pretends it is. She has a decent amount of subs on youtube, and it would be the perfect tool to talk about loss, as it's misunderstood, not talked about enough.
It's just overall sad.I lost respect for her, as have many in the community.
I tend to think that Missy doesn't owe the loss community anything else. She has shared her experience extensively. She has shared her journey to figure out why she may had had both miscarriages, and now she's trying to fix it. Just because she had one healthy pregnancy doesn't mean that all of her pregnancies will be healthy, even after the surgery.
Just because someone has suffered a loss does not mean that they cannot experience joy and want to focus on that instead. Missy has a rainbow baby now, and she realizes just how lucky she is to have him. I wouldn't expect someone who had been through a lot of losses to bring them back up every year for various awareness holidays. I think it's enough that she has to suffer through the anniversaries of her children's deaths. No need to do that on YouTube any more than she already has.
