BebePearl wrote: ↑Mon Sep 21, 2020 3:03 pm
OMG SHE IS DOING IT AGAIN. She says, “I know she needs to gain weight but my mommy gut is telling me something”. She is asking if she can just go back on unicorn milk. This child is in a failure to thrive state. The docs should have told her an emphatic HELL NO.
Imagine if she had done her research and taken the advice of the hospital speech pathologist more seriously than the advice of some random lactation consultant with minimal credentials that was pushing the frenectomy? She's a former NICU nurse. I'm not sure why she wasn't able to do her due diligence, besides the fact that she just clearly lacks any critical thinking skills. She could have taken the advice of the hospital speech pathologist that referred her to the clinic that did a proper feeding evaluation BEFORE moving forward with the frenectomy.
Speech pathologists are much better trained to diagnose these issues than lactation consultants or pediatric dentists. I learned this from a quick good search and reading a couple articles on the huge uptick in frenectomy over the past decade and how they're being over-diagnosed. When groups of patients are referred to speech pathologists after a lactation consultant suspects tongue tie, a small percentage are good candidates for the surgery.
I'm no expert, but after breastfeeding a baby I have to agree with the speech pathologist that the baby's sucking pattern was super disorganized. She was trying, but she couldn't latch consistently and kept coming on and off the bottle nipple. She most likely can't transfer milk efficiently from a nipple. And this is after the tongue, lip, and cheek tie was supposedly "corrected." It's probably an unrelated latch and tongue muscle issue. Experimenting with different bottle nipples might help, but I know things are complicated by her cardiac issue so I'm thinking Alex better just accept that her reality is going to be feeding tube and bottle from here on out. And that's okay! Some babies don't get the hang of breastfeeding.
I noticed that she didn't share much else about the results of the consultation, because I'm assuming they didn't tell her what she wanted to hear. I agree with previous posters that she's putting a lot of stock in being able to breastfeed after her heart surgery, and she's setting herself up for a big disappointment if it doesn't go her way.
As a breastfeeding mom, the deep freezer makes little sense to me? I was told that breastmilk lasts in the freezer about 6 months. I can't imagine how much she is planning on putting in that deep freezer! If she's just doing it to keep her supply up, she'd be better off donating the excess milk as she goes. That would be a nice way to pay it forward after they were the recipients of donated breastmilk. The deep freezer is like a weird shrine to stockpile her milk.