BumpsAlongTheWay Part 1

[Jameson]

Taking care of a baby is hard. I wonder if Missy will ever get mad at Bryan because he is too busy filming instead of helping.

That being said..Oliver is a BEAUTIFUL baby. Definitely giving me baby fever watching.

[swiftty90]

Who performed the c-section? A doctor that she just met? AWKWARD! That's why I will NEVER see a midwife.

Akward? So if you went to the ER and needed an emergecy apendectomy, would it be akward that the surgeon is someone you havent met? NOOO.... most practices you don't always have the same Dr deliever that you receieved prenatal care from. Alot of times whoever is on call. And if you went in and needed an emergency c-section even if you had a regular OB, if they werent there you would get whoever was on call. I had the same OB for both my pregnancies and delievered by different dr's both times. Having a midwife has nothing do with who performed the c section.

[mommyluvv]

My OB is the only one in his practice. I see him and his 2 other Nurse Practitioners. There is never a problem. The only time he would not be able to be at a delivery is if he was out of town, which happened once for me. With my first. He had actually gone out of town the day before. And I was 35 weeks. I think he plans accordingly because he only has a certain amount of pregnancy patients. But thankfully the doctor who delivered my first I knew about from a lot of women so I knew I was in good hands.
But he was there for my second. I was a scheduled c-section, but when I went to my dr. appointment at 36 weeks, they knew I was in the hospital the day before having contractions 5 mins apart but the hospital said I wasn't dilating so they sent me home. My doctor came in to see me and checked to be sure, and I was 2cm & 75% effaced. He pretty muched canceled his plans that night to send me to the hospital and do my c-section at 6pm.

It really depends on how your doctor works. As well as, how urgent it is to have the c-section/delivery baby right then and there.

[PinkGlitter82]

I don't ever post here, because I really like Bryan and Missy. However, is it just me or does Missy's mom seem WAY TOO over involved?? She just rubs me the wrong way. I think she needs to back up a little and give Missy and Bryan some space with their new baby.

I kind of feel bad for Bryan. I don't know why but in the welcome vlog and todays vlog it just seems like he is an outsider and that baby Ollie is more of Missy's and her family's. Like in the welcome vlog we didn't see Bryan hold Ollie until the end and AFTER all of Missy's family had held and passes him around. Then today, Missy's mom and sister were dressing him for the first time and then changed his outfit. Maybe Bryan would have liked to have done it?!?!

Maybe it's just me, I don't know.

[mommyluvv]

I don't ever post here, because I really like Bryan and Missy. However, is it just me or does Missy's mom seem WAY TOO over involved?? She just rubs me the wrong way. I think she needs to back up a little and give Missy and Bryan some space with their new baby.

I kind of feel bad for Bryan. I don't know why but in the welcome vlog and todays vlog it just seems like he is an outsider and that baby Ollie is more of Missy's and her family's. Like in the welcome vlog we didn't see Bryan hold Ollie until the end and AFTER all of Missy's family had held and passes him around. Then today, Missy's mom and sister were dressing him for the first time and then changed his outfit. Maybe Bryan would have liked to have done it?!?!

Maybe it's just me, I don't know.

I don't think so. I think he was just too worried about making sure EVERYTHING was filmed.

[PinkGlitter82]

I don't ever post here, because I really like Bryan and Missy. However, is it just me or does Missy's mom seem WAY TOO over involved?? She just rubs me the wrong way. I think she needs to back up a little and give Missy and Bryan some space with their new baby.

I kind of feel bad for Bryan. I don't know why but in the welcome vlog and todays vlog it just seems like he is an outsider and that baby Ollie is more of Missy's and her family's. Like in the welcome vlog we didn't see Bryan hold Ollie until the end and AFTER all of Missy's family had held and passes him around. Then today, Missy's mom and sister were dressing him for the first time and then changed his outfit. Maybe Bryan would have liked to have done it?!?!

Maybe it's just me, I don't know.

I don't think so. I think he was just too worried about making sure EVERYTHING was filmed.

Possibly, if so he needs to put the camera down and bond with his baby. I guess we will see in time.

[Guest]

I didnt think so, i mean in the c section shes the last one to hold him. i think shes just excited for Oliver to be her.

and I think byran is doing a pretty good job of "bonding with his baby" you could just tell in his voice how proud and how much he already loves his son.

and I dont think her family acted wrong in the recovery room, brayn didnt have any family there and he had already gotten to hold him, her family was just getting to hold and meet him.

[ohgoodness]

I don't ever post here, because I really like Bryan and Missy. However, is it just me or does Missy's mom seem WAY TOO over involved?? She just rubs me the wrong way. I think she needs to back up a little and give Missy and Bryan some space with their new baby.

I kind of feel bad for Bryan. I don't know why but in the welcome vlog and todays vlog it just seems like he is an outsider and that baby Ollie is more of Missy's and her family's. Like in the welcome vlog we didn't see Bryan hold Ollie until the end and AFTER all of Missy's family had held andand passes him around. Then today, Missy's mom and sister were dressing him for the first time and then changed his outfit. Maybe Bryan would have liked to have done it?!?!

Maybe it's just me, I don't know.

I feel the same way about her mom. I noticed it a few videos back at her doctors appointment when her mom was doing all the talking for her. I was like wth?

[Momof2]

Congrats to Missy and Bryan, Oliver is beautiful baby

[PinkGlitter82]

I don't ever post here, because I really like Bryan and Missy. However, is it just me or does Missy's mom seem WAY TOO over involved?? She just rubs me the wrong way. I think she needs to back up a little and give Missy and Bryan some space with their new baby.

I kind of feel bad for Bryan. I don't know why but in the welcome vlog and todays vlog it just seems like he is an outsider and that baby Ollie is more of Missy's and her family's. Like in the welcome vlog we didn't see Bryan hold Ollie until the end and AFTER all of Missy's family had held andand passes him around. Then today, Missy's mom and sister were dressing him for the first time and then changed his outfit. Maybe Bryan would have liked to have done it?!?!

Maybe it's just me, I don't know.

I feel the same way about her mom. I noticed it a few videos back at her doctors appointment when her mom was doing all the talking for her. I was like wth?

EXACTLY, that is when she started to rub me wrong. And I am all for having my mom around, I loved having her there for lots of stuff but NEVER did she go to EVERY appointment and NST (in fact I can't think of one appointment when she did go, my husband went) and she would have NEVER talked for me.

[BrutalHonesty]

I think its great Bryan is filming so much of it. I had a c-section and the whole thing seems like a blur to me. I would love to have a video to look back on and see everything again. I dont think he cared that her mom put him in his first outfit.. Might not be that big of a deal to him. I dont think her mom is over stepping anything either..

[Guest]

i think it just depends on how close you are with your family. We dont live my family but our relationship is similar to what missy has with her family. My mom was at mostly every drs apt with all 4 of my kids along with huband. She was also there for all of them being born from the first contraction until they were out. She even came up with our boys names.

I LOVE the tight knit relationship my family has with each other.

[mamaof1]

I don't ever post here, because I really like Bryan and Missy. However, is it just me or does Missy's mom seem WAY TOO over involved?? She just rubs me the wrong way. I think she needs to back up a little and give Missy and Bryan some space with their new baby.

I kind of feel bad for Bryan. I don't know why but in the welcome vlog and todays vlog it just seems like he is an outsider and that baby Ollie is more of Missy's and her family's. Like in the welcome vlog we didn't see Bryan hold Ollie until the end and AFTER all of Missy's family had held and passes him around. Then today, Missy's mom and sister were dressing him for the first time and then changed his outfit. Maybe Bryan would have liked to have done it?!?!

Maybe it's just me, I don't know.

I agree. Her family started dressing him it should of been Bryan, it reminded me of when my son was born my MIL was there and wanted to do everything undead of letting my husband it felt awkward to tell her we needed space but I guess he should of put the camera down and done it himself

[ateo]

I feel for Missy and I now how it is to become a unwanted c section ( I had two). I hope everything now is ok for her and she doesn't feel overwhelmed by her family. In the video it seemed like all people cared about the little one and she was somewhere in the backround left for her own. I mean Bryan can take his boy whenever he want to but Missy is the one lying in bed with pain and handycaped and she should be taken care of. Everything Olli related should be made together with her so that she has the feeling to have it in her hands whats done and how its done. It is hard to deal with beeing not able to stand up and hold your baby and take care of it on your own. So I hope for her that she is able to tell her family how she needs them to help her. And I hope her mother is listening to her and is not only all in love with Oliver and to much in the way. A unwanted c section is not easy to swallow for the mother even if every one is happy and thankful about the healthy baby. And the family should be sensitive with her and let her have her privacy bonding time with Oliver. I hope that happens and we only see the other parts in the video. If not and her family is reading here: You should have in mind that Missy maybe is not able to take over control yet (hormones, medication, overwhelming situation, shock) and will be suffering later if you don't give her enough space and time with her child. If she is looking into the videos later... she will see all over Oliver and herself in the backround alone... so I don't think its such a good way to let it look like... even for her to remember the situation.

[BrutalHonesty]

I 100% agree MamaHarrison13!

[ohgoodness]

So if you're very close with your mom, she talks for you. Oh ok mamaharrison. I get it.
Actually no, I don't. There's nothing wrong with a person's mom being there but EVERY one and even talking for a grown ass woman. No! Me personally feels it's a personal thing.

[Guest]

I don't think it's a big deal. She was overwhelmed, if you watch the video on her channel from when she was on the hospital they were not listening to her, she wasn't able to make her feelings known. I know what's like, sometimes doctors don't get it unless they are told the same thing by multiple people. It never hurts to have another person advocating for you.

[ladybug]

I have a feeling a lot of things overwhelm Missy.

[Guest]

She's a new mom, who has two previous losses under her belt. I think it's safe to say that if you lost two babies and had a near death experience with your third that you would be a little anal and overwhelmed too. Most new moms feel overwhelmed at some point

[MamatoanAngel]

I think Missy and her mom are a lot like my mother and I. I don't know if it's because of the great loss we've had, but if Missy is anything like me,she gets tongue tied and choked up talking to doctors. My mom often speaks for me, because she knows exactly, and I do mean exactly, what I want to say.

It's just a bond we have,she knows my thoughts and feelings, and is able to talk to doctors better then I. She also knows I'm shy and a pushover, and she doesn't let them intimidate me like they do if it's just myself and my husband.

Bryan probably didn't care that they were dressing Ollie,I know my husband wouldn't. Yes Ollie is Bryan and Missy's, but this baby is also the whole family's, who have been through this whole ordeal since day one.Everyone is clearly excited for Oliver.

I have no doubts Bryan is bonding with Oliver, it's very obvious. Her mother also wasn't there untill the end of the vlog, it seems clear to me,she does,and has been,giving them space as a couple and new parents.

I think you guys are forgetting, she's allowed to be overwhelmed. She's a new mom,with two previous loss's as well as a traumatic time with Oliver. I know I'm going to be a mess with the baby I'm currently pregnant with. This is bound to stir up feelings from her loss.

Personally, I think she's doing amazing.