BumpsAlongTheWay Part 2

[ohgoodness]

I read through the comments on her post about the situation and nobody wants to admit it. They're all sucking her ass. Lmao!

[ohgoodness]

Did she delete the post?

[xoxoghadxoxo]

I'm sorry, I know most of you dislike Bryan and Missy, but losing their baby was traumatic whether it was a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Who cares? Losing a baby at any age is awful and something no one should have to go through. What does it matter if they lost him at 16 weeks or 20 weeks?? And to say Missy didn't grieve properly is downright disgusting to be honest. Everyone grieves differently. I suggest all of you who have doubts about this situation, read her blog posts about the moment she lost her baby boy and the trauma she went through afterwards. Just because she doesn't talk about it on camera, doesn't make it any less real. It was less than a year ago, I'm guessing she's not over it and probably still finds it very hard to think about, let alone talk about on camera to a bunch of strangers. Say what you want about them, but I think it's unfair to bash them when it comes to such a serious topic.

[Amelia322]

I'm sorry, I know most of you dislike Bryan and Missy, but losing their baby was traumatic whether it was a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Who cares? Losing a baby at any age is awful and something no one should have to go through. What does it matter if they lost him at 16 weeks or 20 weeks?? And to say Missy didn't grieve properly is downright disgusting to be honest. Everyone grieves differently. I suggest all of you who have doubts about this situation, read her blog posts about the moment she lost her baby boy and the trauma she went through afterwards. Just because she doesn't talk about it on camera, doesn't make it any less real. It was less than a year ago, I'm guessing she's not over it and probably still finds it very hard to think about, let alone talk about on camera to a bunch of strangers. Say what you want about them, but I think it's unfair to bash them when it comes to such a serious topic.

It doesn't matter. Any loss is hard no matter what yes some of us know that from experience. I got confused with their stories at times because she would say he was 20 weeks, then 16 weeks. But now going back to all their videos she says be died at 16 weeks but found out at her 20 week app.

I do think her bumps along the way channel should be more about her loss since that's why she started the channel.

[xoxoghadxoxo]

I'm sorry, I know most of you dislike Bryan and Missy, but losing their baby was traumatic whether it was a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Who cares? Losing a baby at any age is awful and something no one should have to go through. What does it matter if they lost him at 16 weeks or 20 weeks?? And to say Missy didn't grieve properly is downright disgusting to be honest. Everyone grieves differently. I suggest all of you who have doubts about this situation, read her blog posts about the moment she lost her baby boy and the trauma she went through afterwards. Just because she doesn't talk about it on camera, doesn't make it any less real. It was less than a year ago, I'm guessing she's not over it and probably still finds it very hard to think about, let alone talk about on camera to a bunch of strangers. Say what you want about them, but I think it's unfair to bash them when it comes to such a serious topic.

It doesn't matter. Any loss is hard no matter what yes some of us know that from experience. I got confused with their stories at times because she would say he was 20 weeks, then 16 weeks. But now going back to all their videos she says be died at 16 weeks but found out at her 20 week app.

I do think her bumps along the way channel should be more about her loss since that's why she started the channel.

He actually passed at about 18 weeks and she found out at her 20 week scan, but like I said, it doesn't matter. She still lost him.

[surferbunny]

Yeah, 16 weeks IS a miscarriage, not a "stillbirth" like she loves to claim. Happens all the time unfortunately.

And I don't care about the messages that either sent to each other. You look at the facts and it's plain as day: Missy STOLE Tina's intro. I think if the shoes were on the other foot Missy would be quite pissed also.

Okay see I was umm uncomfortable to ask how far along she was when she had her stillborn baby... I heard she was less than 20 weeks multiple times, that is a miscarriage

I have been confused about this and like wth, if you are not pass viability it is not a stillborn! really curious why she claims she had a stillborn a fetus before 23 weeks has NO WAY of surviving out of the womb

of course as a pregnant woman I feel for her, she had a late miscarriage which must have been terrible to deal with but she really creeps me out now.. I thought for the longest she had a baby born sleeping full term

Can you better explain what you're talking about because it sounds like you've got your information mixed up a little bit or I may have read wrong. Stillbirth is considered after more than twenty weeks not after viability. Viability is at 24 weeks when the baby has a chance of surviving out of the womb but there are some cases where babies were born before
that and survived. If her baby died at 16 weeks then maybe it wasn't a stillbirth but maybe her doctors called it that since was still was 20 weeks when she gave birth. Either way, it's still a sad thing to go through no matter how many far along you are. I've been there. I lost my daughter at 22 + 6 pregnant.

I read comments that Missy lost a fullterm baby on one of her vids long ago, I do not watch them so when I read that I believed that to be the case ... I always thought that she gave birth to a fullterm baby born dead so, yes, did have my info confused

I always heard Dr's go by the gestation the baby looks to be not when you passed the baby

did not know a child could survive before 23 weeks (which sources say is the beginning of viability) never heard of that, it is sad but it was a miscarriage do not mean to be heartless do not even care to discuss it any further

just not AT ALL what I thought her story was... I always thought she had a stillbirth full term

[pantiesinawad2]

Definition of a stillbirth through the WHO.

http://www.who.int/maternal_child_adole ... lbirth/en/

[MamatoanAngel]

To say it's too hard for her to talk about on camera, is complete bullshit. Her channel was made essentially for loss,which she rarely EVER talks about. Basically Missy got the attention she wanted from her loss's, her channel got some views and then she completely moved on from it.

The channel is now all about pregnancy, and Oliver. She never once mentions how it feels to be x amount of weeks pregnant after loss.Yes it does irritate me, because she claims she does alllll of this to 'help' people.

She could easily make videos discussing what her and Bryan do to include all 3 of their kids in their lives,how they honor and remember them, she doesn't.

She rarely ever mentions Gabrielle.She could easily make a video talking about how it feels to finally get to bring a baby home,talk about her emotions,talk about whether they plan to tell Oliver about his siblings.

I'm sorry, I did find it disturbing how little emotion she showed in the videos she did make about her loss,it's the first thing that came to my mind.

She's not an active member in the infant loss community, nor the stillbirth community. I gave her a link to held your whole life, for a free necklace that is intended for loss, and includes I believe 2 children. She never bothered with it.

I wear my necklace everyday as a small way to honor my son.

She claims to be so about loss and helping people, does she EVER mention anything to do with it? August 19th Day of Hope, is an international day dedicated to raising awareness on loss of all types, and encourage the world to open up, and "break the silence" on loss. She could make a video on it, she doesn't.

What about October 15th Pregnancy and Infant loss remembrance day,where thousands of women band together and light candles for 1 hour in honor and memory of all those lost. She never mentions any of these days, she never does anything.

Truth is,Missy is not and should not be considered an idol when it comes to loss, she does nothing for the community, and she used her loss to get the attention she seeked, and abandoned it when she got what she wanted.

[mookieloo]

Well, they obviously read this forum, so maybe now they'll take your suggestions. Especially if they're really just interested in traffic/views, you think they'd make a bigger deal out of that. Poking a newborn isn't really that interesting after a while.

[teahathspilleth123]

I agree. In the beginning she mentioned her losses and how they affected her pregnancy and emotions but within the past couple of months there has been nothing. People comment on her channel/daily vlog all the time asking who Gabriel is and even on here people don't even know her story of how/when she lost him that well. I know she might not want to show her grieving but don't claim to be helping others when you dont even mention it anymore

[stayclassysydney]

Completely agree ^ I'd be offended if i had a stillbirth babies and went to her channel to seek "help".... there's nothing there

if they read here: start responding to your viewers, and make your channel a platform to help people, not show off your daily boring lives

[FLOSSY77]

I am not going to nitpic dates. Loss at any stage is hard. But I was confused. I thought she lost a full term baby. I think right now they are way to excited with new baby to talk about it. But hopefully she will stick to what she said and use her channel to help. Or maybe that was a lie, just to gain attention, get views and sympathy.

[RubyWoo]

My opinion on Missy is a batshit insane woman who at this point would have killed a full term pregnant woman and stolen the child from her womb if she didnt have a child of her own. She posted a vlog where she was in her car vehemently ranting that she "Just NEEDED a baby".
She has some serious issues imo.
She strikes me as some major bunny boiler. I feel like a baby was a means to an end and now that she has that baby we will see what she's really like.
I personally always thought a stillborn baby was a baby who was born at full term or at viability but who wasn't alive when they entered the world.
Anything before viability would be considered a miscarriage, even though hers wasn't a natural miscarriage.
I dont think her channel offers any "help" to anyone suffering from a miscarriage or infact a still birth.
I find her "Pregnancy Extraordinnaire" title on her instagram ridiculous and her constant moaning about her bicornuate uterus grates on my nerves (thank god she only has a septate uterus and its correctable by surgery)
Also, I know its petty but her lisp drives me up the bend. That's such an easily fixable impediment. She should have been brought to a therapist at the age of 4 and made to learn her way out of that. My son has a minor lisp, he will be sent to a speech therapist and it will be fixed. I absolutely hate hearing her say "Pregnancy" or "breastfeeding" I always feel like she has too much spit in her mouth and she just refuses to swallow it. Also her lisp makes her mouth look droopy. Her eyeliner is ridiculous, why has no one told her she looks like a panda with it? I dont think their vlogs are interesting now they're not pregnant anymore and I think shes a cow for ripping that intro off of that other woman no matter how insane the other woman is.
Thats my 2 cents!

[TruthBTold]

My "sister" (not by blood) was victim to one of those crazy woman you speak of. She was murdered because a woman wanted a baby so bad. I don't think missy fits the same profile as the woman who committed her murder. Not even close! That's going a bit far saying that, IMO!

[RubyWoo]

My "sister" (not by blood) was victim to one of those crazy woman you speak of. She was murdered because a woman wanted a baby so bad. I don't think missy fits the same profile as the woman who committed her murder. Not even close! That's going a bit far saying that, IMO!

In my opinion, if she had lost oliver, I think she would have done that. I dont think it's going too far saying that. Its my opinion so if you dont like that, I respect that, but I still think it.

[TruthBTold]

I respect that as well. She just doesn't have any other things that would stand out to me to make her commit such a henious crime. She is capable of becoming pregnant, she has family all around her, she doesn't seam depressed or have any psychosis. Just because she has lost doesn't mean she will become a murderer. (I am on my phone and don't know how to quote, so sorry) Again, I respect your opinion. To me though, I don't see it.

[RubyWoo]

I respect that as well. She just doesn't have any other things that would stand out to me to make her commit such a henious crime. She is capable of becoming pregnant, she has family all around her, she doesn't seam depressed or have any psychosis. Just because she has lost doesn't mean she will become a murderer. (I am on my phone and don't know how to quote, so sorry) Again, I respect your opinion. To me though, I don't see it.

You must not have seen the vlog I'm referring to.
She seemed like if she lost her baby again she would lose her mind along with it. I felt as though if she lost that baby, she would have a mental break and she struck me as that kind of a person. Thats my reason and I'm sticking to it. It's awful that you've had something like that hit you close to home, but I see psychosis in her.

[Snarklover]

I think her sister has a lisp too, but we don't get to hear her speak much, so I could be wrong. Unfortunately, when one goes to a small private school that is part of a church, they usually don't have as much access to speech pathologists and such like a public school. If she had gone to a public school as a child, it would have been noticed and she would have gotten speech therapy to correct it long ago.

[TruthBTold]

Your right, I haven't. Is it still up? Or can you point me in the direction of finding it?

[Snarklover]

In their blog that somebody mentioned, she says that Oliver was the only boy name they could agree on and that was when she was pregnant with Gabriel. I think it's a little weird that they chose to use that name this time around. That blog is pretty interesting by the way. Here is a link for those interested in reading it. It begins with the first pregnancy she had.
http://www.thebumpsalongtheway.com/