BumpsAlongTheWay Part 1

[Guest]

I think Missy and her mom are a lot like my mother and I. I don't know if it's because of the great loss we've had, but if Missy is anything like me,she gets tongue tied and choked up talking to doctors. My mom often speaks for me, because she knows exactly, and I do mean exactly, what I want to say.

It's just a bond we have,she knows my thoughts and feelings, and is able to talk to doctors better then I. She also knows I'm shy and a pushover, and she doesn't let them intimidate me like they do if it's just myself and my husband.

Bryan probably didn't care that they were dressing Ollie,I know my husband wouldn't. Yes Ollie is Bryan and Missy's, but this baby is also the whole family's, who have been through this whole ordeal since day one.Everyone is clearly excited for Oliver.

I have no doubts Bryan is bonding with Oliver, it's very obvious. Her mother also wasn't there untill the end of the vlog, it seems clear to me,she does,and has been,giving them space as a couple and new parents.

I think you guys are forgetting, she's allowed to be overwhelmed. She's a new mom,with two previous loss's as well as a

traumatic time with Oliver. I know I'm going to be a mess with the baby I'm currently pregnant with. This is bound to stir up feelings from her loss.

Personally, I think she's doing amazing.

I totally agree! My mom and I are super close, my mom always knows exactly what I thinking and sometimes she speaks for me ESP when my feelings and thoughts get lost in translation so to speak. I'm the same way as you I'm shy and sometimes I get intimated by them but she doesn't and speaks up for us. It never hurts to have someone else on your team
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[ohgoodness]

She's a new mom, who has two previous losses under her belt. I think it's safe to say that if you lost two babies and had a near death experience with your third that you would be a little anal and overwhelmed too. Most new moms feel overwhelmed at some point

I can relate. I has a stillborn at 22 weeks and my next child was born at 32 weeks. My mother is the same as Missy's mom and that's how I picked up on it in the first place. Her being that way all my life made me push for independence as I got older. For all we know Bryan and Missy could feel the same. Just never know. I don't know anyone who wants to be talked for.

[Guest]

It doesn't bother me, sometimes I a tubal,y feel relieved. It doesn't seem to bother her. ER and her mom seem to be really close from all the interviews they have done together.

[ChanelleJo]

Congrats to them! The delivery was so exciting and emotional!

[VolcomCherry]

I cried like a baby!!!
I actually don't mind this couple. Although cant wait to see how they'll cope! If they even tell us everything. I have a feeling Bryan is way more open than missy!
I got the feeling with the mum also. In saying that the first change. I think Bryan may have been too scared. I mean babies are little, and fidgety I'm sure he just wanted mimi to do it first and see how Ollie goes. Each to their own.
They are close! I really love the relationship they have. But I think the mum still sees missy as a child. Not an adult who now has a child of her own! I can see her crossing the line a bit and maybe Bryan being a peeved off but not saying anything?
I can also see cassy and mum taking Ollie to let Bryan and missy sleep a lot more than usual!

[lovethelifeyoulive]

I find family constantly hanging around after I have a baby annoying and over stepping their boundaries, but some people like it. Breastfeeding isn't something I want an audience for other then my husband and children.

[Guest]

I loved having my family there! We on,y allowed family visitors when I was recovering, just my family. Breastfeeding in front of other people never bothered me. Kids gotta eat.

[ohgoodness]

I cried like a baby!!!
I actually don't mind this couple. Although cant wait to see how they'll cope! If they even tell us everything. I have a feeling Bryan is way more open than missy!
I got the feeling with the mum also. In saying that the first change. I think Bryan may have been too scared. I mean babies are little, and fidgety I'm sure he just wanted mimi to do it first and see how Ollie goes. Each to their own.
They are close! I really love the relationship they have. But I think the mum still sees missy as a child. Not an adult who now has a child of her own! II can see her crossing the line a bit and maybe Bryan being a peeved off but not saying anything?
I can also see cassy and mum taking Ollie to let Bryan and missy sleep a lot more than usual!

That's exactly what I was trying to get at (Missy's mom seeing her as a child). You did a better job wording it. And who knows, like you said Bryan could not like it himself but doesn't say anything because he knows how close they are. I like them too. They do get a little annoying sometimes, that's why I stopped watching for a bit.

[BlazeMercy]

I find family constantly hanging around after I have a baby annoying and over stepping their boundaries, but some people like it. Breastfeeding isn't something I want an audience for other then my husband and children.

I agree! I hated having family around. Birthing and it ending in c/s, nursing, bonding ect was very personal to us. Family bombarded us as first time parents and was there for so long, and kept taking baby from me to hold her, and trying to tell me what to do and how to do it and I was so overwhelmed it was just awful and I regret allowing it to continue and never allowed it again. For the rest of our kids we said no family there. We had our babies, bonded with them and had personal time, and visitors could come that evening or the next day (we allowed the person who had our other kid/kids to come sooner to meet their sibling). Some family was pissed but to use having a baby is a very personal time and if they didn't like it to bad.

[Kayliecoburn]

We had no visitors for our second for a week (family lives 2 hours away and are too lazy to drive for a few days). It was honestly bliss to just bond with my daughter and my husband. With my first, my mother came over when my husband went to work and stayed all day trying to help out...it was awful and I ended up crying because it overwhelmed me.

A nurse for my second told me how she has seen so many new moms in tears because they are overwhelmed by too many visitors and how the visitors stay long hours and don't let them sleep.

[ohgoodness]

Just a question? Why would anyone need to take shifts to watch a sleeping baby? I'm just curious because as a first time/single momI just slept when the baby slept and had no problems. Yes, I was tired...but it had to get done. A friend of mine and her so did the same thing after they had their baby and never understand why they took shifts either.

[shortstop]

My guess is the fear of SIDS

[sdmomma]

I think she is just extra paranoid of something happening to the baby because of the losses she experienced previously.

[VolcomCherry]

I've had a baby where I had many visitors (family) and a baby where I just had one close friend and that was it! Due to living interstate. I honestly can't say which I preferred. Probably family close by as I quickly got sick of all the constant phone calls when they ( family) were in another state! However no family no visitors made it so I had a lot of time to focus on breast feeding!

I must admit baby Ollie ... You have made my baby fever spike!!! So so cute and adorable. Will be interesting to see how karma copes and reacts but from the vlogs you can see he's a family dog not just Bryan and Missy's which is good, can't see cassy ignoring him. Must say for a 15 year old shes an awesome aunt!
Like with all babies there will be some challenges ahead as well as some hard times but I honestly think they will make great parents.

[loopdeloop]

Just a question? Why would anyone need to take shifts to watch a sleeping baby? I'm just curious because as a first time/single momI just slept when the baby slept and had no problems. Yes, I was tired...but it had to get done. A friend of mine and her so did the same thing after they had their baby and never understand why they took shifts either.

My friend had to do this when she had a C-section. Some (maybe all?) hospitals require that someone is awake in the room with the baby or else they will take the baby back to the nursery. Obviously, the parents want the kiddo there to make breastfeeding easier.

[Guest]

Nope no one had to be awake at our hospital. Only requirement was that your door was closed and baby was in the bassinet thing.

I sent all of my kids to the nursery at night and if I wanted to nap in the afternoon.

[staceymj]

I only had one visitor when our first was born because all of our family but my sister lives interstate and we didn't really know anyone where we lived yet, I preferred it like that, it gave us time to relax and bond and it also have us time to catch up on some sleep when our son slept.
When our daughter was born we knew more people and they wanted to see her but she was in NICU cause she was prem and they have strict visitor rules and everyone harping at me to see her when i had said they couldn't because of the rules annoyed the crap out of me. And then the day we got to take her home I had people harping at me to come see her like as soon as I walked in the door but we wanted time to have her home on our own because she was almost 2 weeks old and we had never had her on our yet. It just annoyed me.

But missy and Bryan seem very family orientated so the may prefer it that way. Plus we do only see 15 minutes of their whole day so maybe they're just filming when they have visitors and not so much when it's just the two of them with Oliver.
And as for the watching Oliver thing, I think they're just a bit paranoid about something going wrong, new parent fear mixed with the fear from having lost 2 babies.

[missparzival]

Is it just me, but when Bryan calls Oliver boy it sounds like his talking to a dog

[MakeupGirly]

Is it just me, but when Bryan calls Oliver boy it sounds like his talking to a dog

Haha, I actually thought that and meant to write it here. They both do it and it's the exact same way as they talk to Karma. ''Huh boy?'', ''Ready to go home boy?''.

[Guest]

Is it just me, but when Bryan calls Oliver boy it sounds like his talking to a dog

Haha, I actually thought that and meant to write it here. They both do it and it's the exact same way as they talk to Karma. ''Huh boy?'', ''Ready to go home boy?''.

Yes!!!! It's so annoying!