Off Topic Banter Part 7

[MamaJoAnna]

Adding a different perspective: My husband went through a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship with his ex-wife for YEARS and it still to this day affects him. I have to avoid using certain words in order for him to not be upset, and that's extremely hard to do in the middle of a heated argument...heck, even if I tell him how he says he's going to do something and then it either doesn't ever happen or doesn't happen for a while, he gets hurt. It's all in how you treat people.

AS, please don't worry yourself to death over all this. Arguments happen. Names are hurled sometimes. If you two didn't argue, worry about the relationship then bc no relationship between 2 people is perfect (regardless of how some portray theirs on facebook).

To slightly change the subject, 3 more days until we see our little one And I actually did my math wrong weeks ago, turns out I'll be 8 weeks at the doctor, not 9. Oops.

[TaylorKnows]

That's so exciting Jo!

[thegooseiscooked]

Anon, I'm not sure exactly what you want us to say. We don't understand why you are so worried, we tell you not to worry....you say the problem is that you ARE worried. What can we say that would make it better?

If it's reassurance you looking for, well, you already got that. They said it happens all the time when you rang up. You did better than I would have in that you were honest about it. I would have lied. You told them you fucked up. They said it was okay. They'll give you a new form.

I get that you're worried about going back in. I do understand that. But they said they will just replace it. Do you not believe them? Do you think your psychiatrist is going to yell at you or change the form so you can't get disability? What in particular are you worried about? If your psychiatrist thought you were eligible for disability before, this performance just backs his decision up. You're acting nuts.

Why does your boyfriend have to take time off to take you there? Why can't you go yourself? You don't drive? Take public transport. Get a taxi.

I am honestly scratching my head here. You have been the first person to argue with me, to pick a fight with someone, to be bold enough to have a different opinion and stick up for it despite the abuse you cop for it.....and now you want us to believe you are some shivering little frightened shadow too scared to venture out of the house alone? It's not adding up.

If all of the above is true, I would suggest that this site is perhaps not the best place for you to be. Not a healthy place for someone who is suffering their own issues. And yet you were made a mod. Geez....this site worries the heck out of me sometimes.

[LizLee30]

AS, I really don't understand what the big deal is. It has been sorted out, they said it was no big deal... no point dwelling on it. You're just another name and number to these people - they aren't judging you.

[FLOSSY77]

That story gave me a headache. I don't get it. Anon I think you should read Autumns post before yours and take a xanax.

[AnonymousSource]

Why does your boyfriend have to take time off to take you there? Why can't you go yourself? You don't drive? Take public transport. Get a taxi.

I am honestly scratching my head here. You have been the first person to argue with me, to pick a fight with someone, to be bold enough to have a different opinion and stick up for it despite the abuse you cop for it.....and now you want us to believe you are some shivering little frightened shadow too scared to venture out of the house alone? It's not adding up.

If all of the above is true, I would suggest that this site is perhaps not the best place for you to be. Not a healthy place for someone who is suffering their own issues. And yet you were made a mod. Geez....this site worries the heck out of me sometimes.

There are many things wrong with your post, but I'll just point this out in particular. 1. Not that it's much of your business but, I don't have the money to use public transport and public transport sucks in America. No, I don't drive. I stopped driving after my anxiety became crippling basically. I'm literally scared to death that if I drive I will get into a car accident and die. So, yes, my boyfriend takes off work and drives me.

2. I can be as bold as I want on the internet. I'm ANONYMOUS on here after all. I'm definitely not this bold on Facebook or Instagram or any of my real life social media. Just because I appear bold and argumentative and I stick up for myself here doesn't mean I don't have crippling anxiety and problems within my own life that I'm dealing with. Your whole post sounded pretty ignorant.

3. Never once did I ask to be a mod or was I consulted about being a mod. I was just "promoted" randomly by Morgan after talking to him in the shout box a few times. If you have a problem with that, take it up with him.

I'll remember not to bring my personal problems into the off topic banter for future reference because unless it involves "beans in a muff" or getting drunk off your ass, people don't seem as sensitive.

[TaylorKnows]

AS, I really don't understand what the big deal is. It has been sorted out, they said it was no big deal... no point dwelling on it. You're just another name and number to these people - they aren't judging you.

Hate to say it, but it is true. I still don't see what's wrong with the nurse saying "calm down". Seriously. Deep breaths. It's all gonna be okay.

And I'm sorry, I did confuse you with another poster, so I apologize for saying what I did on that part. Names and stories are starting to blend, especially when they're similar.

I do want to point out, that you have been here awhile, so you know how it goes. Hell, Ashley posting all of her crap in Off Topic sections lead to her getting a multiple part discussion on here. What you put on here can be put up on the chopping block. Not always the most "pat on the back" bunch. So if you don't want to hear the responses, than I wouldn't post it.

[FLOSSY77]

Why are you so upset? Your bf called you a moron. Go yell at him. Advice was given and questions were asked. How is goose supposed to know you can't drive or what transportation in the states is like? Take it down a notch. Breathe! You are being irrational today. Here and at home.

[thegooseiscooked]

Typed about 16 responses. Deleted them all. Currently sewing my virtual lips shut. 'Nuff said.

[FLOSSY77]

Bad day anon. Go get your muff beaned and call it night.

[thegooseiscooked]

Unfortunately all of my responses came under the category "101 Things Not to Say to a Mod".

[mumma2one]

My father is fighting cancer for the 3rd time. He will have to be on chemo pills for his entire life witch have awful side effects. Last night he had to be rushed to the ER his tumor is causing a bleed & will be getting surgery today. How do you even explain death to preschooler? I swear it was his calling to be a grandfather. Better grandfather that he actually was a father. Maybe we as parents learn from the first time around? My father never smoked but will die of lung cancer. Life is short only stress over what & who is necessary. He every so often would bring my kids pancakes & myself coffee. On random weekday mornings after dropping my mom off at work. He sits at my kitchen table & reads them books. We camp with them every weekend in the summer. He plays a fairly big role in my children's lives . I fear for my mother being a widow after over 30 years of marriage. How will she care for a house? Financially do on her own? It's a strange feeling to grieve the loss of a parent before hand. I just have fear of the unknown. Cancer sucks.

All these things weighing heavy on my mind. So many people out there worse off than me. I still have so much to be thankful for. So many people I love are healthy including my children & I personally know people who can't say that. I just hope he gets to make it to my daughters Fall play at the end of this month. He's been looking forward to it. My little girls a squirrel. lol


Just venting I guess sorry if this makes no sense.

I'm really sorry for what you & your family are going through..

Death is really a tough topic for just about everybody, unfortunately it's part of life & I can't imagine what you would say to a child. .. so sorry


I think it's great that you & especially your children have lots of amazing memories with your father, he sounds like a wonderful & very strong man.. cancer really does suck, it truly does. It's horrible..


Will keep you all in my thoughts & prayers ♡
Stay strong Autumn
sorry I can't say very much to help, what you have said definitely brings tears to my eyes.

[thegooseiscooked]

Yes, I'm sorry for your father and your whole family Autumn. Such a difficult time.

[FLOSSY77]

Yes! Prayers and positive thoughts.

[TaylorKnows]

I'm so sorry Autumn. Lots of prayers.

[blackbetty]

Unfortunately all of my responses came under the category "101 Things Not to Say to a Mod".

Lol I just say it. I got balls.

[blackbetty]

Hugs to you Autumn

[mumma2one]

Has anyone seen "Love,Rosie"?

[Guest]

Totally off topic but I'm back on ambien and can't promise I'll remember half my posts anymore. Just reading the bickering above was too much for my brain to handle. Give me ten minutes and I'll be zombied out.

Litted candles.

[subject99]

Tomorrow is the day ladies! Wish me luck for my time of the month! Let's pray it comes!!! I've been waiting for this day.

I do wish you luck subject. An unwanted pregnancy is just about the last thing you need right now. "Let the blood run free" (that used to be a very crappy comedy show in Australia about a hospital but the name seemed appropriate).

Nothing yet so far...but it's only 9am. Still the whole day.