HayleeAndBaby Part 1

[Yue195]

Holy shit they JUST settled in moving in together... It has only been three months and people were going nuts saying it was apparently too early to move in together, now they need to get married? Let them make their own descision on what they want to do, not every couple has to get married straight away after making a big commitment of moving in together.

[staceymj]

Marrying FOR hazzel is the wrong reason to get married. They need to want to be together and see themselves having a life together because before you know it hazzel will be an adult and she will have moved out to live her own life and it's haylee and randy who are stuck together.
Haylee seems like a very dedicated mother to hazzel, she wouldn't of moved in with randy if she couldn't see them having a future together, there is no need to rush and there is no need for them to get married just to fit some perfect ideal people on the internet have. Putting too much pressure on a relationship that's relatively new and that does have a child involved is a recipe for disaster. I think they should take their time and feel everything out and be completely sure that marriage is what they want because there is a child involved.

[shilohjulia]

They all seemed really happy in the latest video, going to the lacrosse game and Hazzel spending time with her grandparents. They're still very young but seem like they have the right aspirations and want to be a family.


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[alym0326]

She shouldn't be allowed to call him dad until everyone is comfortable with it. And obviously someone is uncomfortable with it.
She has a dad, and until he gives up rights or has legally "abandoned" her, he is her dad. But they can always have dad&daddy or something of the sort.

As for them marrying because it would be devastating to Hazzel if the broke up, that's just dumb. Marriage doesn't mean they won't break up, it just means the breakup will be a divorce, will cost more money and cause more stress all around. They should get married when they are ready.

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I don't think everyone has to be okay with it, the only people that have to be okay with it are Haylee, randy and most importantly Hazzel.


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[ladymama]

She shouldn't be allowed to call him dad until everyone is comfortable with it. And obviously someone is uncomfortable with it.
She has a dad, and until he gives up rights or has legally "abandoned" her, he is her dad. But they can always have dad&daddy or something of the sort.

As for them marrying because it would be devastating to Hazzel if the broke up, that's just dumb. Marriage doesn't mean they won't break up, it just means the breakup will be a divorce, will cost more money and cause more stress all around. They should get married when they are ready.

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I don't think everyone has to be okay with it, the only people that have to be okay with it are Haylee, randy and most importantly Hazzel.


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And they obviously aren't okay with it which is exactly what i was saying. They shouldn't make him daddy because some strangers on the internet think they should.

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[alym0326]

She shouldn't be allowed to call him dad until everyone is comfortable with it. And obviously someone is uncomfortable with it.
She has a dad, and until he gives up rights or has legally "abandoned" her, he is her dad. But they can always have dad&daddy or something of the sort.

As for them marrying because it would be devastating to Hazzel if the broke up, that's just dumb. Marriage doesn't mean they won't break up, it just means the breakup will be a divorce, will cost more money and cause more stress all around. They should get married when they are ready.

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I don't think everyone has to be okay with it, the only people that have to be okay with it are Haylee, randy and most importantly Hazzel.


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And they obviously aren't okay with it which is exactly what i was saying. They shouldn't make him daddy because some strangers on the internet think they should.

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Haha I know, I was mainly referring to you saying everyone - as everyone is a very vague statement


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[shilohjulia]

The eating disorder video was sad. Maybe she shouldn't be a vlogger if she's still struggling with that.


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[CamilaCabello]

The eating disorder video was sad. Maybe she shouldn't be a vlogger if she's still struggling with that.


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Or... Maybe people shouldn't be in her comments calling a perfectly healthy woman fat?

[mommaof2cuties]

The eating disorder video was sad. Maybe she shouldn't be a vlogger if she's still struggling with that.


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Or... Maybe people shouldn't be in her comments calling a perfectly healthy woman fat?

Right and horrible that it's the same person asking the same crap about her weight. And she's not even struggling with her actual weight issues anymore she's upset about people being assholes. Youtubers get stuff said about them all the time but this is something that she struggled with bad in the past so of course its going to hit her haRd when shes acruelly healthy and being calles fat. Who knows maybe she can open up about it more and help people.

[shilohjulia]

She is perfectly healthy, probably underweight for her height, I'm just saying that when youre a vlogger you're going to get hate comments, and if she's had struggles with her self image before she shouldn't put herself in a position where she could become vulnerable again.


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[staceymj]

I think she's smart for speaking up about the trolls who call her fat on her videos. Imagine how many 13/14/15 year old girls read her comments and see haylee called fat and think "OMG if people think haylee is fat than I must be huge" because she is really tiny. And she's right, you don't ever know what someone has been through or is going through and saying someone is fat is not only incredibly rude and cruel but it can be a really bad trigger for someone with eating disorder tenancies. It's why you don't ever ask someone "when are you having a baby" because you don't know if they're really struggling with fertility and that could be a really hard question for them to hear.

[olemama]

^^^^That is why Haylee should not put her fitness regime out there on public social media. She is suffering from an eating disorder which has put her in the hospital. . She is obviously upset with negative comments about her body and is vulnerable to relapse as a result of those comments. She can't stop the comments on her public media. Trolls are there all the time. She should play it safe. Make her social media private, consult medical professionals who know her history, and get support from her IRL family and friends not youtube minions.

[staceymj]

But fitness can help people recover from an eating disorder and through social media she may find people she can relate to and help her or she may help someone else realise they have a disorder of their own.

A girl I follow on Instagram (@billieasprey) had a really bad eating disorder and through fitness she has completely recovered and now she's really healthy and strong. She's just one example.


Going off what haylee said in her video she is aware of her triggers and when she's sliding back into old habits and her doctor seems very involved in making sure her weight stays healthy.

[Yue195]

I follow a girl on YT who used to film her experience about recovering from bulimia, she filmed pretty much everything about her struggles. Relapsing, the crap she got herself into when she messed up pictures in a help group, her family member making sure she didn't binge eat. Talking about what was going in her head. She's deleted the videos now since she maintained a healthy weight for 2 years straight, but it was really insightful.

[zipadeedodah]

That video was so sad! It made me tear up. I had to leave a comment and let her know she's beautiful inside and out.


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[OneGoodThing]

Hey everyone, I'm a longtime lurker but I rarely make posts. I saw that Haylee made a video about her ED and as an ED sufferer of two years and counting, I had to add in my two-sense.
I've watched Haylee very sporadically for a while now, and I don't know if this is the first time she's admitted to having an eating disorder, but I've suspected it for a while. I remember in an old video she talked about having struggles with disordered eating prior to having Hazzel and I thought that it was strange because I knew that it wasn't something you could just get over.
To me, it doesn't seem like Haylee has had any real treatment. The video sounded like she was put in the hospital when her weight got low, was force-fed until her weight was relatively stable, and then thrown out to deal with her ED on her own. I really strongly believe that if she wants to fully recover from her eating disorder, she needs to see an ED therapist and an ED dietitian. To someone who doesn't have any experience with eating disorders, I can totally see how one would think that she is recovered. However, she was couldn't stop herself from crying because she gained weight and because people noticed. That's not the behavior of someone who is fully recovered.
Furthermore, a lot of people with eating disorders hide their disordered eating under being "healthy and fit". I can see that Haylee's weight has gotten to a point where she is extremely unhappy with her body, and probably feels like her eating habits are out of control. She doesn't want to revert to her old eating disorder behaviors, such as restricting and purging, but she needs a way to control her eating. I know because I've been in that exact place, where my weight is at a high point and I'm binge-eating, and I just desperately need to have some form of control so I say "Hey! I'm gonna get super into ~~*~fitness~*~~". It always turns back into restricting and purging. I see so so many Instagrams of people who claim to have recovered from their eating disorders through exercise or going vegan or through yoga, and it's all BS. Pretty much everyone I know with an eating disorder has tried to eat "clean". Anyone who spends that much time thinking about food and their body is not recovered. When I was in one of my phases where I was a raw vegan and exercised religiously, I thought about food and my body for probably 15 hours a day and that was not healthy at all.
I'm really scared for Haylee. She thinks that her days of being sick are so far behind her and she would never start restricting or purging again but it's really easy to fall backwards without realizing it. I know, I've been in this cycle for years. Some people have eating disorders for dozens of years before they are recovered. I think that Haylee doesn't really understand her eating disorder. If she is going to start exercising and changing her diet, she needs to see an ED professional. I promise that it is a very slippery slope. I think that she has a lot of drive to recover and be healthy, more than I've ever had. Having an eating disorder is not her choice and in no way makes her a bad mom, but it will have an effect on Hazzel if Haylee uses these behaviors as Hazzel grows older.
Anyways, sorry this was so long. I just had a lot to say, and I'm sure that I'll think of more stuff to say later, but this is what I've got for now.

[olemama]

^^^^Thank you. I hope for continued health for you.

[zipadeedodah]

What health issues does hazzel have? I know Haylee talks about how her hair falls out and she's so petite. I couldn't find what condition she had though


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[ladymama]

What health issues does hazzel have? I know Haylee talks about how her hair falls out and she's so petite. I couldn't find what condition she had though


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The only issues I can find was her torticollis (sp?). I saw that Haylee birthed her uterous, but that's her health issue. I've been wondering, too.

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[nutbagmcgee]

She mentioned it in the day in the life long ass video. I watched it because I was bored. Something acidosis. Kidney issues maybe?


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