gypsophila wrote:Different cultures have different values too. If you want to parent your kids, go for it. But don't criticize other people who grew up with their expanded famiy around them. I had that from both sides of my family. My kids didn't have it at all, and I consider that to be a missed opportunity for them. They are grown, and love their remaining grandparents very much and love being around them, but they totally missed out on a great opportunity.
Vanessa is and was a stay at home mom. Her mom worked full time and only babysat when they went out, AFTER Lily was in bed. It wasn't several times every week. I remember ONCE it was twice a week. David was going to school. They didn't have the time or money to go out all the time.
I haven't criticized anyone, so if that was a comment directed at me you need to re-read my post.
I think extended family can be involved, even heavily involved and influence a child. I think your implications that unless the grandparents are raising the child they cannot have those bonds is way off base. JMHO.
