Brittani Boren Leach: Part Two

[kmarie]

Life can’t just stop when you have 3 other kids. What good does it do for her to lay in bed all day moping, too sad to put on makeup and do her hair? Maybe doing her hair keeps her mind from going to a dark place. Everyone grieves differently. Maybe she has to ignore the pain and fake a smile to keep on going. Maybe it would be good for her to make a video. Most people would probably have to be back at work by now, why should she not go back to work if it would help her feel normal? It’s probably much better for the other kids too to have a mom who can get out of bed.

[MiloandMax1]

I wonder if the "being judged" has more to do with people judging is more for the speculation about what happened? I don't have an issue with her showing her face and thanking everyone. Maybe its part of going forward and going back to work (anyone that's had a child pass has to go back to work eventually). I can understand she doesn't know what to say so thanking people with her face and not just in a post is where she started and you have to start somewhere.

[MiloandMax1]

Also as far as hair and makeup today is Sunday. Doesn't Brittani go to church? Maybe they had just gotten home from church and she went and made that video

[brittsmom111]

Life can’t just stop when you have 3 other kids. What good does it do for her to lay in bed all day moping, too sad to put on makeup and do her hair? Maybe doing her hair keeps her mind from going to a dark place. Everyone grieves differently. Maybe she has to ignore the pain and fake a smile to keep on going. Maybe it would be good for her to make a video. Most people would probably have to be back at work by now, why should she not go back to work if it would help her feel normal? It’s probably much better for the other kids too to have a mom who can get out of bed.

Yes to all of this!! I hope for her children sake she keeps going and finds little things to be happy about. The kids already lost a brother they don't need to lose a mother to. I hope she does her hair and make up everyday and finds joy again in her other children. I know he just passed away but im glad she is doing things with them and making her self get up

[TeachIT]

I’m going to start taking a shot every time someone says “everyone grieves differently”.


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[MiloandMax1]

I’m going to start taking a shot every time someone says “everyone grieves differently”.


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Its true they do. There are no rules on how to grieve.

[LexiRae]

I’m going to start taking a shot every time someone says “everyone grieves differently”.


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You would die of alcohol poisoning
I agree that everyone grieves differently. I would most likely be on suicide watch if something even half that bad happened to my child. So I’m not going to judge her for that. I just hope she doesn’t feel pressured to post, like she “owes” it to these new fans if that makes sense. I used to think taking a break from social media would do her a lot of good to grieve and spend more time with her kids, but I’m starting to think the social media is like her form of escapism


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[TeachIT]

I agree with the statement, and would even extend it to people grieving differently in different circumstances. If I had one child who passed I’d probably need to be hospitalized from grief. If I had more than one, and one passed, I’d try to keep it together for the other child.

My grandmother, who I was close to, passed away recently and no one understood why I didn’t go to the funeral. But that was just my way of processing it


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[Blueberries]

Come on people, grief is not a one size fits all. People grieve in many different ways. As horrible as it sounds, life does go on, you have to keep working, parenting, etc. I’m sure she feels like her life just ended, but laying around in bed crying all day every day, shutting out the rest of the world just doesn’t work for some people. I understand there’s a lot of speculation, but trashing someone on how they grieve and saying she’s glad to gain money and gifts by losing her SON, is just heartless.

[violet08]

Come on people, grief is not a one size fits all. People grieve in many different ways. As horrible as it sounds, life does go on, you have to keep working, parenting, etc. I’m sure she feels like her life just ended, but laying around in bed crying all day every day, shutting out the rest of the world just doesn’t work for some people. I understand there’s a lot of speculation, but trashing someone on how they grieve and saying she’s glad to gain money and gifts by losing her SON, is just heartless.

Honestly, I’d probably wear makeup and do my hair to help me get through the day and tend to my other kids. Like some have mentioned the kids don’t need to lose a mom too. She needs to do whatever she has to do to get out of bed

[LonelyTown]

When my daughter died I laid in bed paralyzed for a good 2 weeks.

Then I got up and put on a cute outfit and makeup. Went to the movies with friends. Went to the Orlando science center the next day.

I cried throughout every single thing I went to. But from the outside world nobody saw that. One day you have to get up and move on. Doesn’t make the loss any less painful. Doesn’t mean you’re not sad. Grief is weird and makes no sense

[LonelyTown]

When my daughter died I laid in bed paralyzed for a good 2 weeks.

Then I got up and put on a cute outfit and makeup. Went to the movies with friends. Went to the Orlando science center the next day.

I cried throughout every single thing I went to. But from the outside world nobody saw that. One day you have to get up and move on. Doesn’t make the loss any less painful. Doesn’t mean you’re not sad. Grief is weird and makes no sense

[onceafollower]

I think with the having many kids thing, she's also just truly obsessed with having a girl. There is a gender reveal of Cooper on her Facebook page where she swings a bat to make the baseball explode blue and at the end of the gender reveal she captions "A miss for team pink :'( but it's not over yet!" and ENDS THE VIDEO FOR HER SON with a pink bow and a wink on it to show that it was a "strike out" and she already wants to try again for a girl. All of their gender reveals she's shown SUCH disappointment. And even in her nursery tour for Crew's room, she's talking about "Oh, it's gender neutral if this were to ever become a girl's room..." As soon as she's found out about any of her boys, she's onto planning the next attempt for a girl instead of focusing on the little lives in front of her that she brought into this world.

This makes me sad. She DOES have a girl. Sydney. Maybe she isnt there full time but she's got her girl right there and Sydney clearly adores Brittani. Enjoy your girl and take care of your precious boys. I grew up with a stepmom being the only mom I really knew and I still had to hear "I wish I had kids of my own." You do!!

I'm sorry but its NOT the same. I have both. A SD and my own DD. I had 2 boys before I had my DD and I was overjoyed that I was having my own girl. But I was also reminded constantly that I was not SDs Mom no matter how close I was to her. She had her own Mother who shelived as I'm sure Sidney does as well.

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[skippy1931]

I didn't have a choice I had other children to take care of. Did i have my makeup and hair done nope I'm not a hair and makeup girl I figured if I got out of bed got dressed took care of my kids I was doing good. Its not for me to say what they should do or what I would do. I'm sure people probably thought I looked like a slob but how I looked was the least of my worries. My biggest fear is those kids. So young to loose someone they have to have a ton of fear will it happen to them, could it happen again did they do something these are all normal questions for kids when they loose a sibling my heart breaks for all of them its a horrible loss . Also the parents you never get over it no matter what the final outcome is. Even if you did nothing and there is no reason you will always question every single thing you did you will blame yourself with I should have why didn't i what did I do wrong? for them its will be worse with every single thing on the internet and yes their choice to do that but it will be brutal. If they have another child he fear you live with is brutal. I wouldn't want anyone to stop living their lives because of a loss

[TeachIT]

Yeah it’s hard being stepmom to a girl. You’re right, people are constantly making sure you know that you aren’t their “real” mom — and you’re also right, they have a mom. Doesn’t make stepmoms less important, but I always think about my own stepdaughter... Who will she want hosting her wedding shower? Who’s wedding ring will she want to have and pass down? Who will she call when she’s in labor with her own child? Her birth mom. She loves me and I’ll be high on her list of important people, but her birth mom will always be #1. And that’s ok!

I also had boys first and I always told myself if I never had a girl it was ok, I got some of the “experience” of having a daughter with my SD. Not the whole package, but better than nothing.


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[Tina9900]

When I lost my husband I wanted to die too. The only thing that kept me going was my kids! I did have to get up and get ready for the day and put on a brave face, but at night when I was all alone I would break down. She has 3 other kids, plus Sydney sometimes. She has to keep going for them and take care of them. What we are on social media is not always the truth about how someone is feeling.


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[Tina9900]

When I lost my husband I wanted to die too. The only thing that kept me going was my kids! I did have to get up and get ready for the day and put on a brave face, but at night when I was all alone I would break down. She has 3 other kids, plus Sydney sometimes. She has to keep going for them and take care of them. What we see on social media is not always the truth about how someone is feeling.


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[LexiRae]

When I lost my husband I wanted to die too. The only thing that kept me going was my kids! I did have to get up and get ready for the day and put on a brave face, but at night when I was all alone I would break down. She has 3 other kids, plus Sydney sometimes. She has to keep going for them and take care of them. What we are on social media is not always the truth about how someone is feeling.


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Yes my mom had a major mental breakdown when my father died too. He was only 46 and me and my sister were only 9 and 10 years old. His funeral was on Halloween and me and my sister still went trick or treating that day (with our aunt because our mom literally couldn’t move) and she still hates Halloween.
My mom is one of the people who still is affected by it over 10 years later and never posted anything online about it or anything and is very reclusive. At least Brittani is getting out and says she’s doing as ok as she can be given the circumstances. Some people would be laying on the floor drunk or unable to get out of bed.


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[Mom2liml]

When my daughter died some of the worst words to hear from people were “wow if that were me I’d die, I’d just kill myself”. Those are dangerous words to say to a newly grieving parent. Truth is.. you do not know how you would handle it until you are there yourself.
I never ever thought I could go on after the loss of a child. But I had to.

[goaheadandstfu]

My oldest is 14 years old. We co-slept from the night we came home from the hospital until the night I woke up and he was covered with the quilt and the panic I felt was indescribable... and I got lucky, he was perfectly fine. We moved him to his crib after that, but it took me a while to forgive my self for NOTHING even happening.

If Crew passed from unsafe sleeping practices I'm sure Brittani is just riddled with quilt. Even if he was in a safe place she would feel quilt but knowing that her negligence was the cause would be a lot to bear. I hope she gets counseling either way.