How awful!
I know exactly what you mean. It's pretty much what I said. And the difference in the way my friend has handled what happened to her and her son compared to Joan is also telling. My friend donated her son's organs, and takes some solace in that, but has also spent a lot of her time since her son died trying to help others. She has bad days, of course. She's not a saint! But she doesn't use her tragedy to get special treatment. The opposite. She finds meaning in trying to help others deal with their grief. And she would never in a million years tell another grieving parent that they have it better than she does, for any reason.
RootBeerFloatie wrote:Warning that this is a personal post, and probably a very unpopular opinion that is likely fueled by my own anger and grief but idgaf at all. My best friend's brother (28 yrs old) was murdered a few weeks ago on their mom's birthday. He was giving a coworker a ride home to a bad neighborhood and someone who had a beef with the other dude shot and killed both of them. He was senselessly killed while doing someone a favor and truly has nothing to do with whatever was going on between the garbage in his passenger's seat and the trash who killed him. Joan's comments dismissing the loss of other people's children in favor ofvher own makes my blood boil and my hands start to shake. Their mother also had a stillborn daughter, though that was 30 odd years ago at this point. I dare Joan to ask her which one hurt more, because I guarantee her stillbirth doesn't even come close. I get that maybe it's not a fair comparison, but Joan loves the pain Olympics and she's going to lose in the face of any mother who lost a child they actually got to know. She's a needy attention hog and nothing gets her more attention than Maeve. She's going to keep milking it until people finally grow a pair and tell her to get a grip.
How awful!
I know exactly what you mean. It's pretty much what I said. And the difference in the way my friend has handled what happened to her and her son compared to Joan is also telling. My friend donated her son's organs, and takes some solace in that, but has also spent a lot of her time since her son died trying to help others. She has bad days, of course. She's not a saint! But she doesn't use her tragedy to get special treatment. The opposite. She finds meaning in trying to help others deal with their grief. And she would never in a million years tell another grieving parent that they have it better than she does, for any reason.
So sorry for your loss, and that of your friend's family.
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