Ohnonotme wrote:Ducklings4 wrote:I couldn't believe that she ordered for those girls. Makes me wonder if Olivia is reading well enough to read a menu.alym0326 wrote:It is absolutely RIDICULOUS that Bonnie orders for the kids at restaurants, it's one thing if she relays what they want to the waiter - but to not even consider what they want and just say "you're having this" is a bit much especially since the girls are older. Obviously it makes sense to do it for Lincoln, and even Boston - but Olivia and the other girls 100% should be able to chose what food they want at a restaurant... on top of that, they didn't even get their own meals!!! Bonnie ordered food to be split between them, jeez...
Also, in response to this board having more hate than love for Bonnie. From my perspective, no one really hates Bonnie - she receives a lot of love on this board, more than any other board I read. However, she does receive hate when it is warranted. 9/10 there is a reason behind the hate she receives and not someone just hating her because they hate her. 95% of the people on here love Bonnie but thinks she makes questionable decisions and will call her out on it. That's just my opinion.
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For the love of God! Makes you wonder about Olivia's reading ability because her mother orders for her??? My eyes just about rolled out of my head. Talk about over analysing and looking for issues when there are none. Olivia has shown many times what a good reader she is.
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I absolutely dont think Bonnie is underfeeding the kids for making them share a meal. Restaurants' 1 serving dish is good enough for 2 people. It's unhealthy to eat the entire dish. Way too much food!Ohnonotme wrote:Ducklings4 wrote:I couldn't believe that she ordered for those girls. Makes me wonder if Olivia is reading well enough to read a menu.alym0326 wrote:It is absolutely RIDICULOUS that Bonnie orders for the kids at restaurants, it's one thing if she relays what they want to the waiter - but to not even consider what they want and just say "you're having this" is a bit much especially since the girls are older. Obviously it makes sense to do it for Lincoln, and even Boston - but Olivia and the other girls 100% should be able to chose what food they want at a restaurant... on top of that, they didn't even get their own meals!!! Bonnie ordered food to be split between them, jeez...
Also, in response to this board having more hate than love for Bonnie. From my perspective, no one really hates Bonnie - she receives a lot of love on this board, more than any other board I read. However, she does receive hate when it is warranted. 9/10 there is a reason behind the hate she receives and not someone just hating her because they hate her. 95% of the people on here love Bonnie but thinks she makes questionable decisions and will call her out on it. That's just my opinion.
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For the love of God! Makes you wonder about Olivia's reading ability because her mother orders for her??? My eyes just about rolled out of my head. Talk about over analysing and looking for issues when there are none. Olivia has shown many times what a good reader she is.
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Playing catch up after being on vacation for a week... I was shocked by everything I was reading about Bonnie's "bullying" but when I viewed the actual vlogs, I was relieved that it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought.
The one thing that has really think, "what in the actual fuck" was when Bonnie jokingly says to Lincoln, "I'm gonna spank your mouth" (something about spanking his mouth), because the word sounded naughty, but she's totally kidding and admits that she uses cuss words... I'm a strong believer in people joking/saying things that they actually think/do. Not that she was actually thinking of "spanking his mouth" but that that is an actual THING that has taken place at some point in her parenting.
I don't spank, but I joke around with my kids a lot, but "spank your mouth" seems like such a weird thing to come out of someone's mouth. Am I wrong?? It seemed normal and natural for her to say.
On a really nice note, I liked how she reacted to Julie's smudged toenails. I seriously was expecting her to embarrass her, and like passive aggressively "joke" about wanting to know where the polish was on HER floors or HER furniture. She really pleasantly surprised me.
Also, I'm equally as surprised about Ruby allowing her kids to order their own meals! Lol
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The one thing that has really think, "what in the actual fuck" was when Bonnie jokingly says to Lincoln, "I'm gonna spank your mouth" (something about spanking his mouth), because the word sounded naughty, but she's totally kidding and admits that she uses cuss words... I'm a strong believer in people joking/saying things that they actually think/do. Not that she was actually thinking of "spanking his mouth" but that that is an actual THING that has taken place at some point in her parenting.
I don't spank, but I joke around with my kids a lot, but "spank your mouth" seems like such a weird thing to come out of someone's mouth. Am I wrong?? It seemed normal and natural for her to say.
On a really nice note, I liked how she reacted to Julie's smudged toenails. I seriously was expecting her to embarrass her, and like passive aggressively "joke" about wanting to know where the polish was on HER floors or HER furniture. She really pleasantly surprised me.
Also, I'm equally as surprised about Ruby allowing her kids to order their own meals! Lol
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So, I decided to Google "spank your mouth" to see if that was a common thing that I'm just ignorant to, and of course the first results were articles about child abuse, but this particular one caught my eye, because I immediately wondered if maybe this person was going to be Mormon. It seems like a sort of common thing with Mormons having old family blogspot journals, like the Griffiths! So I clicked... sure enough, this family is from Utah, and the one entry I clicked, it was about a Japanese exchange student type thing visitor and they talked about what she knew "of our religion" so I could only imagine they are Mormon.PostyMcPosterston wrote:Playing catch up after being on vacation for a week... I was shocked by everything I was reading about Bonnie's "bullying" but when I viewed the actual vlogs, I was relieved that it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought.
The one thing that has really think, "what in the actual fuck" was when Bonnie jokingly says to Lincoln, "I'm gonna spank your mouth" (something about spanking his mouth), because the word sounded naughty, but she's totally kidding and admits that she uses cuss words... I'm a strong believer in people joking/saying things that they actually think/do. Not that she was actually thinking of "spanking his mouth" but that that is an actual THING that has taken place at some point in her parenting.
I don't spank, but I joke around with my kids a lot, but "spank your mouth" seems like such a weird thing to come out of someone's mouth. Am I wrong?? It seemed normal and natural for her to say.
On a really nice note, I liked how she reacted to Julie's smudged toenails. I seriously was expecting her to embarrass her, and like passive aggressively "joke" about wanting to know where the polish was on HER floors or HER furniture. She really pleasantly surprised me.
Also, I'm equally as surprised about Ruby allowing her kids to order their own meals! Lol
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1) was it common to have online family journals to keep other family updated?
2) is "spank your mouth" a common phrase used there?
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The Mormon church encourages "documentation" from what I've heard. Journals, blogs, now vlogging. All the Griffith's had vlogs prior to doing YT, so did Jared.PostyMcPosterston wrote:So, I decided to Google "spank your mouth" to see if that was a common thing that I'm just ignorant to, and of course the first results were articles about child abuse, but this particular one caught my eye, because I immediately wondered if maybe this person was going to be Mormon. It seems like a sort of common thing with Mormons having old family blogspot journals, like the Griffiths! So I clicked... sure enough, this family is from Utah, and the one entry I clicked, it was about a Japanese exchange student type thing visitor and they talked about what she knew "of our religion" so I could only imagine they are Mormon.PostyMcPosterston wrote:Playing catch up after being on vacation for a week... I was shocked by everything I was reading about Bonnie's "bullying" but when I viewed the actual vlogs, I was relieved that it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought.
The one thing that has really think, "what in the actual fuck" was when Bonnie jokingly says to Lincoln, "I'm gonna spank your mouth" (something about spanking his mouth), because the word sounded naughty, but she's totally kidding and admits that she uses cuss words... I'm a strong believer in people joking/saying things that they actually think/do. Not that she was actually thinking of "spanking his mouth" but that that is an actual THING that has taken place at some point in her parenting.
I don't spank, but I joke around with my kids a lot, but "spank your mouth" seems like such a weird thing to come out of someone's mouth. Am I wrong?? It seemed normal and natural for her to say.
On a really nice note, I liked how she reacted to Julie's smudged toenails. I seriously was expecting her to embarrass her, and like passive aggressively "joke" about wanting to know where the polish was on HER floors or HER furniture. She really pleasantly surprised me.
Also, I'm equally as surprised about Ruby allowing her kids to order their own meals! Lol
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1) was it common to have online family journals to keep other family updated?
2) is "spank your mouth" a common phrase used there?
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Ruby is usually super weird about food, I just figured she let the kids order their own to try and impress her sister. I feel like the sisters are all naturally competitive when it comes to money and success, husbands, etc and bet it would have been different if it was just Ruby that had taken the kids out on a normal night with Kevin.
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Ruby used to be super stingy with food, maybe she still is. I haven't watched her enough lately. But that's what's so surprising to me, thinking of her allowing even four of her six kids ordering their own meals, lol. That seems way unlike her! You might be right that now that she's making more money, so allows it to seem like the better mom. Who knows. Lol, I envisioned all six kids having to share one meal at restaurants.HelloSweetie wrote:The Mormon church encourages "documentation" from what I've heard. Journals, blogs, now vlogging. All the Griffith's had vlogs prior to doing YT, so did Jared.PostyMcPosterston wrote:So, I decided to Google "spank your mouth" to see if that was a common thing that I'm just ignorant to, and of course the first results were articles about child abuse, but this particular one caught my eye, because I immediately wondered if maybe this person was going to be Mormon. It seems like a sort of common thing with Mormons having old family blogspot journals, like the Griffiths! So I clicked... sure enough, this family is from Utah, and the one entry I clicked, it was about a Japanese exchange student type thing visitor and they talked about what she knew "of our religion" so I could only imagine they are Mormon.PostyMcPosterston wrote:Playing catch up after being on vacation for a week... I was shocked by everything I was reading about Bonnie's "bullying" but when I viewed the actual vlogs, I was relieved that it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought.
The one thing that has really think, "what in the actual fuck" was when Bonnie jokingly says to Lincoln, "I'm gonna spank your mouth" (something about spanking his mouth), because the word sounded naughty, but she's totally kidding and admits that she uses cuss words... I'm a strong believer in people joking/saying things that they actually think/do. Not that she was actually thinking of "spanking his mouth" but that that is an actual THING that has taken place at some point in her parenting.
I don't spank, but I joke around with my kids a lot, but "spank your mouth" seems like such a weird thing to come out of someone's mouth. Am I wrong?? It seemed normal and natural for her to say.
On a really nice note, I liked how she reacted to Julie's smudged toenails. I seriously was expecting her to embarrass her, and like passive aggressively "joke" about wanting to know where the polish was on HER floors or HER furniture. She really pleasantly surprised me.
Also, I'm equally as surprised about Ruby allowing her kids to order their own meals! Lol
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1) was it common to have online family journals to keep other family updated?
2) is "spank your mouth" a common phrase used there?
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Ruby is usually super weird about food, I just figured she let the kids order their own to try and impress her sister. I feel like the sisters are all naturally competitive when it comes to money and success, husbands, etc.
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I'm pretty sure Olivia CAN'T read...they only checked out audio books at the library, which they ALWAYS seem to do. Do we know if Bonnie can read?? LOL! But, honestly, when have they ever even read a kid a book at night?
It's SAD Bonnie cares more about looks than literacy.
It's SAD Bonnie cares more about looks than literacy.
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Who on earth leaves little kids on a trampoline alone???? And literally LOCKED out of the house. I see a lot of ER visits in Bonnie's future.
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We've seen her read a few times now. They own the audiobooks that you can read along with and they sleep to them. They hadn't gone to the actual library until recently, but Olivia has clearly expressed an interest in reading (and the ability to) in the last few months.ewokfan11 wrote:I'm pretty sure Olivia CAN'T read...they only checked out audio books at the library, which they ALWAYS seem to do. Do we know if Bonnie can read?? LOL! But, honestly, when have they ever even read a kid a book at night?
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And Lincoln was out there too. I'm hoping Shari and Chad were out there watching him (and all the little ones really), but it's unsettling to me, especially to actually lock the door. The trampoline has no net and we've seen them jump from the treehouse to the trampoline many times. I can imagine a broken neck and none of the kids able to get to an adult because they locked the damn door.ewokfan11 wrote:Who on earth leaves little kids on a trampoline alone???? And literally LOCKED out of the house. I see a lot of ER visits in Bonnie's future.
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I think people are misunderstanding the door thing. They kicked it so someone cokent burst in and overhear them.... they weren't locked out entirely. They were all by the windows and could probably hear if a kid got hurt and would have seen if one was at the door. This is no different than locking the door to the bathroom or bedroom so your kid can't burst in.Caisflame wrote:And Lincoln was out there too. I'm hoping Shari and Chad were out there watching him (and all the little ones really), but it's unsettling to me, especially to actually lock the door. The trampoline has no net and we've seen them jump from the treehouse to the trampoline many times. I can imagine a broken neck and none of the kids able to get to an adult because they locked the damn door.ewokfan11 wrote:Who on earth leaves little kids on a trampoline alone???? And literally LOCKED out of the house. I see a lot of ER visits in Bonnie's future.
Chad was outside as well. We saw him with Linc in the next clip.
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No misunderstandings anywhere. In a serious emergency, every second counts. The extra seconds it took to unlock the door or pound on the windows and run around to another door could be life changing in the event of an injury. You don't lock any doors when that many small children are outside on their own.HelloSweetie wrote:I think people are misunderstanding the door thing. They kicked it so someone cokent burst in and overhear them.... they weren't locked out entirely. They were all by the windows and could probably hear if a kid got hurt and would have seen if one was at the door. This is no different than locking the door to the bathroom or bedroom so your kid can't burst in.Caisflame wrote:And Lincoln was out there too. I'm hoping Shari and Chad were out there watching him (and all the little ones really), but it's unsettling to me, especially to actually lock the door. The trampoline has no net and we've seen them jump from the treehouse to the trampoline many times. I can imagine a broken neck and none of the kids able to get to an adult because they locked the damn door.ewokfan11 wrote:Who on earth leaves little kids on a trampoline alone???? And literally LOCKED out of the house. I see a lot of ER visits in Bonnie's future.
Chad was outside as well. We saw him with Linc in the next clip.
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I think this is being a bit extreme. They were RIGHT THERE. Ruby clearly kept glancing out the window while Bonnie was talking. I would be far more concerned about a an unlocked door and a parent not watching at all. We aren't even talking about the time it would take to run upstairs from downstairs if they were doing laundry and the kids were left upstairs. I think the kids were fine, especially since it seemed that Chad (and probably Sherri) were out there watching them.Caisflame wrote: No misunderstandings anywhere. In a serious emergency, every second counts. The extra seconds it took to unlock the door or pound on the windows and run around to another door could be life changing in the event of an injury. You don't lock any doors when that many small children are outside on their own.
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I lock my bedroom door when I change to prevent barging in. I lock it when I use that bathroom. Heck, I've even been known to shower from time to time while the older kid watches the younger one!
The Griffiths kids all raise themselves, so if there were any children capable of keeping a good eye on a little one it's those kids. Should the door be locked? If they are watching and just don't want someone to barge in and hear something, then I don't have a problem with that. There was a discussion here last week about how damaging it can be for kids to hear their parents criticize or laugh at them... I'm glad to see that maybe Ruby and Bonnie do have some awareness for things they aren't willing to say around the kids.
This is side-eye worthy, but lets be real, there isn't a need to start acting like the kids were in severe danger and would have had to pound the windows to get in We've seen vloggers leave their kids in cars, or not even realize their toddler was wandering around outside... it could be so much worse. Would it have been any better if the door was unlocked and Ruby and Bonnie were chatting in the living room? Basically, anything that isn't right next to your kids could be considered life-threatening.
About the restaurant thing. I assumed Bonnie meant that she ordered for the kids, as in talked to the waiter. That is certainly what Ruby made it sounds like when she said she "makes them order for themselves." This doesn't mean there isn't any talk about what the kids can/can't have. I expected to actually see this in the vlog after reading here, but it was just people assuming that Bonnie didn't give the kids a choice.
I don't see a problem with kids sharing given that the leftovers would probably have just gone to waste since there wouldn't be enough for everyone and they were leaving the next day. I hate wasted food though.
The Griffiths kids all raise themselves, so if there were any children capable of keeping a good eye on a little one it's those kids. Should the door be locked? If they are watching and just don't want someone to barge in and hear something, then I don't have a problem with that. There was a discussion here last week about how damaging it can be for kids to hear their parents criticize or laugh at them... I'm glad to see that maybe Ruby and Bonnie do have some awareness for things they aren't willing to say around the kids.
This is side-eye worthy, but lets be real, there isn't a need to start acting like the kids were in severe danger and would have had to pound the windows to get in We've seen vloggers leave their kids in cars, or not even realize their toddler was wandering around outside... it could be so much worse. Would it have been any better if the door was unlocked and Ruby and Bonnie were chatting in the living room? Basically, anything that isn't right next to your kids could be considered life-threatening.
About the restaurant thing. I assumed Bonnie meant that she ordered for the kids, as in talked to the waiter. That is certainly what Ruby made it sounds like when she said she "makes them order for themselves." This doesn't mean there isn't any talk about what the kids can/can't have. I expected to actually see this in the vlog after reading here, but it was just people assuming that Bonnie didn't give the kids a choice.
I don't see a problem with kids sharing given that the leftovers would probably have just gone to waste since there wouldn't be enough for everyone and they were leaving the next day. I hate wasted food though.
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I am so glad to see that Joel is using his time to help others or do things he enjoys. It really seems as though Bonnie loves this about him, and unlike most other vlogging wives, seems to thrive rather than struggle when he's away. It's like its familiar and comfortable to her. Glad to see he has more going on than just a professional You Tuber. There is no reason why most YTers can't find something to do with their time other than stay home 24/7 and shop/nap.
I am so glad to see that Joel is using his time to help others or do things he enjoys. It really seems as though Bonnie loves this about him, and unlike most other vlogging wives, seems to thrive rather than struggle when he's away. It's like its familiar and comfortable to her. Glad to see he has more going on than just a professional You Tuber. There is no reason why most YTers can't find something to do with their time other than stay home 24/7 and shop/nap.
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Regarding the restaurant, I disagree - I'm fairly certain that Bonnie chose what they were having based on what she said in the vlog. Bonnie said "I'm going to order what you kids are gonna have and split it up between you". To me that doesn't give any indication that she asked the kids what they wanted and just relayed it to the waiter, especially cause I doubt all 3 girls wanted the exact same thing. That's just my opinion based on what was said.BadWolf wrote:I lock my bedroom door when I change to prevent barging in. I lock it when I use that bathroom. Heck, I've even been known to shower from time to time while the older kid watches the younger one!
The Griffiths kids all raise themselves, so if there were any children capable of keeping a good eye on a little one it's those kids. Should the door be locked? If they are watching and just don't want someone to barge in and hear something, then I don't have a problem with that. There was a discussion here last week about how damaging it can be for kids to hear their parents criticize or laugh at them... I'm glad to see that maybe Ruby and Bonnie do have some awareness for things they aren't willing to say around the kids.
This is side-eye worthy, but lets be real, there isn't a need to start acting like the kids were in severe danger and would have had to pound the windows to get in We've seen vloggers leave their kids in cars, or not even realize their toddler was wandering around outside... it could be so much worse. Would it have been any better if the door was unlocked and Ruby and Bonnie were chatting in the living room? Basically, anything that isn't right next to your kids could be considered life-threatening.
About the restaurant thing. I assumed Bonnie meant that she ordered for the kids, as in talked to the waiter. That is certainly what Ruby made it sounds like when she said she "makes them order for themselves." This doesn't mean there isn't any talk about what the kids can/can't have. I expected to actually see this in the vlog after reading here, but it was just people assuming that Bonnie didn't give the kids a choice.
I don't see a problem with kids sharing given that the leftovers would probably have just gone to waste since there wouldn't be enough for everyone and they were leaving the next day. I hate wasted food though.
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I don't think we have enough information about the restaurant to really form a strong opinion. I mean, I clearly don't like Ellie and think she has food issues, but if she said in passing she ordered chicken for the boys for lunch I wouldn't question whether the restaurant had something the boys wanted more (or better options) and feel she should have ordered that. We don't know where they went, what the options were, what discussion was had, portion sizes, etc....
I'm sure it probably is the result of her controlling what they eat, but don't we nitpick YTers on the reg about how they met their kids just eat whatever they want? We don't even know what else the girls had that day or what the plans may have been for a "treat" later on.
I'm sure it probably is the result of her controlling what they eat, but don't we nitpick YTers on the reg about how they met their kids just eat whatever they want? We don't even know what else the girls had that day or what the plans may have been for a "treat" later on.
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I haven't watched it yet-- I'm at work. But I don't understand. The kids were outside playing, and they locked the door so the kids couldn't rush in and hear what they were saying, but they filmed it? Or did they not actually film the conversation? It sounds like they did, because someone said Ruby kept glancing outside.
That makes no sense to me. If the conversation is too private for the kids, why would you film it and upload it?
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Re: Locking the kids out... This is old-fashioned parenting, inherited from the Sainted Mother Jennifer and probably her mother before her. My husband has anecdotes from his '70s childhood, about getting locked out of the house when adults visited with children in tow. He and the visiting children (and any other children he could find) would run wild for hours (in the heat of a Mississippi summer). And no moms sat near the window fretting about it. I have similar anecdotes from the '80s & '90s... Except I hated it, lol. But no one thought it was in any way risky or inappropriate. Obviously we have come a long way in terms of parenting methods... We can all decide whether that's a good thing or not. (I think it's definitely not. Probably a good thing I don't vlog.)
The Griffiths sisters are practicing vintage parenting. They may even spank occasionally, which I don't think is the worst thing in the world.
Re: ordering the kids' meals. I must have missed this in the vlog... But I can say that my dad always placed our order, whether we were at a drive-through or sit-down restaurant. It wasn't a weird parental control thing. We would tell him what we wanted, and generally he knew what we wanted anyway (for instance, I hate most condiments on burgers and mayonnaise in any application). He would veto higher-priced dishes, because we were poor, but there was no malice or control-freaking in it.
It's interesting, this conflict of vintage "free range" parenting vs the helicopter-type values it seems like most people have these days (in public, anyway). I'll be interested to watch this generation of children grow into adulthood. My guess would be that they will be highly anxious adults, but who knows.
The Griffiths sisters are practicing vintage parenting. They may even spank occasionally, which I don't think is the worst thing in the world.
Re: ordering the kids' meals. I must have missed this in the vlog... But I can say that my dad always placed our order, whether we were at a drive-through or sit-down restaurant. It wasn't a weird parental control thing. We would tell him what we wanted, and generally he knew what we wanted anyway (for instance, I hate most condiments on burgers and mayonnaise in any application). He would veto higher-priced dishes, because we were poor, but there was no malice or control-freaking in it.
It's interesting, this conflict of vintage "free range" parenting vs the helicopter-type values it seems like most people have these days (in public, anyway). I'll be interested to watch this generation of children grow into adulthood. My guess would be that they will be highly anxious adults, but who knows.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Not Your Average BonBon Part 11
The reason parenting changes is because people read studies or realize that as times change, better methods are out there to raise kids. There can be a compromise between forcing your child to play outside for hours in the summer (seemingly without access to water or a bathroom) and hovering over your child ever second. Also, parents just blindly raising their kids the way their parents did because they "turned out fine" is no better than being overly anxious to the point of not letting your child have any freedom at all.RecklessDisregard wrote:Re: Locking the kids out... This is old-fashioned parenting, inherited from the Sainted Mother Jennifer and probably her mother before her. My husband has anecdotes from his '70s childhood, about getting locked out of the house when adults visited with children in tow. He and the visiting children (and any other children he could find) would run wild for hours (in the heat of a Mississippi summer).
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It's interesting, this conflict of vintage "free range" parenting vs the helicopter-type values it seems like most people have these days (in public, anyway). I'll be interested to watch this generation of children grow into adulthood. My guess would be that they will be highly anxious adults, but who knows.